Love is friendship set on fire

I've been in a lot of different relationships, ranging from long term and loving to week long sexual flings. Although I've had the best relationships with girls I've been friends with for quite some time, they spawn from a mutual confession of a 'crush' for one another and bloom from there.

The only draw-back from a relationship that spawns from being good friends to begin with is that when the relationship ends, which most inevitably do, generally so does the friendship. If the friendship doesn't end, then it's safe to say that it is never the same again.

I heard a very good quote from a very wise man who said "Love is friendship set on fire"... This can be taken many different ways, considering the intensity of the flame and 'keeping the flame alive'. If the flame were to go out, all that would be left is a smoldering pile. Rather profound, but it seems to make sense to me.

I have just started getting close to one of my friends recently. Her and I have found much to build a relationship on as well. The problem is that I just recently lost a friend I've had for the past 5 years because her and I hooked up. The girl I'm with now is great, and I'll have to see what happens. I was just wondering what all of your opinions are on this matter, and maybe some experiences you may have had in the past.

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by xiaowei

It still can work out. After the first date, if both people are willing to forget the conversation about crossing that line and the date, the friendship still can be salvaged. It just requires both to excise it from memory and go one with life.

Denial just isn't in my bag of tricks... I don't do it.

How ya doing, buddy?

I just recently started talking to one of my ex's again, her and I dated for about 3 years and it ended terribly... her and I hadn't spoken for about a year and half, and we are better friends now that we talk again and I forgave her for what she did... but initially in my experiences immediate friendship after being in love for so long is just a fairy tale.

most of the relationships I'm talking about have ended badly, so I suppose my experiences are different than most that have been mentioned.

I -have- broken up a relationship in a civil manner with a friend, and we are still friends; but like I said, it's not the same anymore. I think it comes down to a balance... if the breakup is as mutual as the hookup, then it's a clean cut and nothing changes... but if one person does the breakup and the other isn't prepared for it, it changes some things. Her and I act very differently around each other now.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.