how do you know if you really love someone?

I think it's kind of dangerous to tell people that love is "just something you feel". Then they get to thinking that the initial "crush" is love, and when that inevitably fades they've fallen out of love and rush off to file divorce papers.

This is probably hard to do if you're right in the midst of a raging crush, as you seem to be, but ask yourself: if it wasn't for those uncontrollable feelings, would you still be good friends with her?

If you're unsure, just stick with her for another year so the crush has time to burn out. If you can't stand her by then, you weren't actually in love.

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

When you break it down and look it at, what else is it? What defines humanity?

Love is an emotion. An intense and complicated emotion, but an emotion nontheless.

I always took it for infatuation, plus the reliability of friendship. Knowing consciously that you're infatuated with someone you can trust feels different from a plain old crush, where your logic centers are completely derailed by you wondering why you're so obsessed with someone you're not really that attached to.

I guess if you want to make it complicated you can, but I never saw much use in keeping it some sacred, mystical thing.

Also I think a more realistic acid test is whether you can see yourself washing skid marks out of your beloved's underwear. It's the little things that count, you know.

There's nowhere I can't reach.