Double Standards

Originally Posted by Gecko3

My rant is, "Why aren't I good enough for you before you have a child?" Because I'm afraid that if I do go out with them, and suddenly the baby's father wants to get back together, then I'm in a kind of a rough spot. It has happened before too, on several occasions, so as a rule now, I don't date women who have kids, even if they're really good looking. But I hate it when they give me the wrong impression, so that makes it even harder for me to want to ask a girl out (and I'm kind of the shy type too).

:eyebrow: Sounds like the you're the cuckold kind of guy to women. There's been a few articles on how at certain times of the month (ovulating and not) that women will prefer different types of men. They mentioned that maybe it was so the women could net the proper "father" type of man for their kids, but they still preferred as masculine representation of gene quality as possible (ie: a better looking guy).

I agree that the games people play while dating are ridiculous. The things men and women have to do, say, etc.. reminds me of the elaborate mating rituals of other animals. All this could be avoided if people were straightforward about their desires.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Acro-nym

There's the double standard involved with raising children. In teenage years, some parents are overly protective of daughters in terms of relationships, but not of sons. My dad tried to explain this one to me recently, saying that parents don't have to worry about sons getting pregnant. If a child is conceived, the responsibility for raising the child mainly falls on the unwed mother and her family.

Those are just a few I feel like mentioning right now. I may return later with more.

Interesting. My friend at work has a daughter on the way and he said he was going to teach her what he knows of martial arts so she can defend herself from thieves/rapists.

The strange part about that is I doubt he would say the same thing if he was going to have a son, even though males are more likely to be victims of violent crimes (and nearly every crime) aside from rape.

There's nowhere I can't reach.