HAY GUYS

valiant · Mar 30, 2006, 02:44 AM

Oh yeah, there is a definite stigmatism to those who stay at home when they are at their 20s+. Rather they are percieved as antisocial, or unstable figures who cannot obtain for themselves financial security within an occupation (probably because they didn't go to college or didn't make use of what they did with their education). Unfortunately I have a stigmatism against them but it seems rather unfair for parents to continue to support their children at the age they have the ability to support themselves. Rather maybe move out and live with friends, or such and possibly participate in the exciting aspects of life such as Marriage, Family raising, work, etc.... It seems that if you live with your parents, some people with this stigmatism (like myself unfortunately) may percieve such people who live with their parents to be juvenille and irresponsible. Also it may appear that such people are fixated in a certain stage, hence if they are unable to support themselves how are they to be able to survive? Utter dependency on a parent is inappropiate at such an age but of course...some dependency is healthy (just not specified to JUST the parents).

Of course, this is just my perspective (I am not bashing anyone who is still staying at home). I myself am an adult (18 woo)...who highly anticipates college and the "experimenting" of living beyond the realm of the parents and setting boundaries for myself. Of course I will still continue to write to my parents or visit them, but I want to prove to them that I can exceed like they did.

(Again not bashing anyone, just stating my perspective T-T. I think you guys are valid people too XD)

How ya doing, buddy?

valiant · Mar 30, 2006, 03:03 AM

Wow good point, it also depends on the culture. US is really big on people moving out and making "something" of themselves.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

valiant · Mar 30, 2006, 09:47 AM

Originally Posted by coeccias

I am 25 and I still live at home. With all of my financial obligations, it would be difficult to move out, but that is not the reason I remain here. My grandmother has Alzheimer's disease and the care my mother provides alone is not sufficient as she needs to work to pay all the necessary bills. I act as my grandmother's caretaker while my mother is at work. By the time she comes home, I am off to my job.

By sharing the burden with her, my grandmother is cared for pretty much around the clock. I really would like to move out, but with two sibling away at school and one in the Marines, I feel I cannot do otherwise than help my family in this way while my grandmother is still alive.

Wow that is really noble of you, that does exhibit responsibility concerning the quandries at the home. What a tough situation to be in

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.