Have you/would you stay with someone if they cheated?

That's pretty funny. I was with the same person for almost four years and the one who did the cheating was her, not me. It's unfair to scrutinize an entire gender based on the actions of another person. It's just as likely for a woman to give in to a "moment of weakness" as it is for a guy. I really hope you were at least half-joking with that post. At least partially.

To stay a little on topic... I did try to work it out, several times; because when you are with someone long enough it's a lot harder to just "break it off" than many people seem to think. It's easy to hypothesize about what you would do when you aren't in the situation, but the simple fact is that emotions can cloud rational judgement and you'll never know how you will respond to anything until you are actually going through it.

How ya doing, buddy?

Fucking another person is still breaking trust. Rather or not you have an emotional attachment to them does not matter at all, you are still going behind your SO's back and doing something you know they don't want you to do.

Eh, this entire topic is kind of silly, when you start getting people who respond and have never actually gone through it. The reason ultimately that I'm not with my fiancee, isn't just because she cheated on me, but because by doing so she violated my trust. (not even just once, but twice). It was HARD to even trust her after the first time, let alone the second time, you know? Hell, to be honest it was probably as good as over after the first time but I was trying really hard to work through it anyway because I loved her.

And I won't lie, if you had asked me before this happened if I would have tried to work it out I would have said no, because the act of cheating disgusts me, and if you can't fucking contain yourself when you "claim" you love another person you don't deserve them and that's all there is to it.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

I think anyone who has been in a relationship for even a fifth of the same time could tell you that. You're always most interested in a person who you first meet them. Just because things cool down, doesn't mean you love them any less, though. I completely agree that the way you feel early on isn't really love. It's probably much easier to describe it as lust, as dirty as that sounds.

I don't really want to go into why I was cheated on, either, because no matter which way I look at it, it's offensive to me.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.