eHarmony.

I briefly joined up, made my profile, but never signed up for the service. It remains appealing, but I don't know how much I want to spend for a service that is potentially a waste of time.

Heh, story of my romantic life, right there. Maybe I should...take a risk, so to speak.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Encephalon

THANK YOU! I don't know there have been times when I thought I "clicked" with someone only to be let down, so there is a certain amount of truth to that. eHarmony sells a dream, not a reality and it really is pretty disconcerting to see this happen.

Uh, you're acting as if it can't work, which is a far cry from you don't think it would work for you.

It's not about inserting rod A into slot B. That's just a silly way to think about it. There's quite a bit more that goes into a personality profile than mere classification, because, (duh) everyone's different. The service they give you is attempting to give you an overview of what they think you should look for.

I remember mine saying that I should look for a relationship that was competition-free, and I think that's one of the best pieces of relationship advice I've ever been given. After I heard it, it felt right. It would drive me up the wall to be around someone who was constantly giving me the business. That isn't to say that I'd never establish a relationship with a competitive person, but what are the chances of me staying in that relationship for a long time, without ending up storming out of the house? Slim to none. I think the same goes for a lot of the other questions they present to you.

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

Hello. Human interaction. You're not going to like everyone you meet. You need to be able to GET OUT THERE. You need to do it YOURSELF.

Perhaps people such as myself just find the thought of "human interaction" like the kind you've been giving rather sickening.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

I find it sickening too. But you have to do it.

I don't see why. I have to do it in my job, already, but why should I have to do it when I'm searching for someone who will understand me?
Why on earth wouldn't you want to cut out a lot of the unnecessary bullshit, and get rid of the people you know you wouldn't like in the first place?

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

Because thats how mate selection goes. Do you know how much you LEARN from the experience?

Not really. But that's how you've accepted mate selection goes, not how it does. It's convention versus invention.

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Because you need to learn how to think for yourself. It IS necessary. THATS what I am trying to tell you. ;_;

You know as well as I do that I have ready opinions of my own. You can't even fill out the personality profile on the site unless you can talk about what you like and what you dislike. Being antagonized by some bitch that's lecturing me on the finer points of why she likes watching Desperate Housewives, and eating salad, ravioli (and oh yeah, let's get dessert too) off of my dollar doesn't inform me of anything except what I already know, which is that honesty of personality is practically nonexistant in a traditional date setting.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

Its important to know that if you DO go out on a date with a woman like this (ahahaha, I would hate it too), you have the right to chose and learn from your decision. You simply either duck out of the date or you never call her again. You have learned something you DISLIKE and you have learned how to DEAL with that.

That's the thing, though. How do I know whether or not she was being socially open with me? How honest was she being? Was she chatting me up because she was nervous, and there's really a lot more going on behind the scenes?

Do I really want to spend more money to find out? Do I want to waste both of our times and make obligations that don't pan out? Do I want to give her the wrong impression because I'm curious about knowing her a bit more intimately?

And don't try to tell me that these things get easier to recognize with experience. I'm sure to some extent that's true, but what it really boils down to is gut instinct.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

In summary, I think possibly the worst words that I should ever have to hear are "I had a good time tonight."

ORLY. Care to expand on that? Give me more than the normative prerequisite for spending my money.

FELIPE NO

I had a random wacky thought earlier, and from this day forward, I don't think I'll ever be able to separate the image of Sass in my mind from a Blunderbore.



"What do you MEAN you want to use a dating service? Don't you have any RESPECT for yourself! Et CETERA!"

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?