The Downside of Sex

Originally Posted by pb and spanglish

Sorry I wasn't more specific in my title selection. I suppose the article is about the downside of uncommitted sex--specifically, among college-aged women.

Well, that's fine then. If you feel you'd have a bad reaction to uncomitted sex, then don't do it. Problem solved.

But sex within a comitted relationship is something else.

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by Plainsman

I think I should let it known that I'm pretty conservative.

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I'm not a virgin. I know what it's all about.

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My current girlfriend is a virgin. I've never known a girl like her, she is so special. I'm determined to keep her pure until we marry, or she marries someone else.

lollin

I'm not sure what's more offensive, that you want to make a decision for your girlfriend that you could not even make for yourself, or that your girlfriend's wishes don't seem to matter much.

suddenly this thread got interesting.

Double Post:

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

Sexual relationship don't offer up baggage - fucking EMOTIONAL relationships do.

quoted for truth. After all, some people get really fucked up by bad friends and there wasn't a single blowjob between them.

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Originally Posted by Vampiro

It's like how the downside of a cigarette is the cancer and addiction.

No, it really isn't.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Vampiro

No... but it's because of the act that the emotional attachment was formed,

So people have sex in order to know someone better?

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My point is the addiction is the main problem and the cause of the suffering, much like the boyfriend breaking up with the girl.

You feel that all or most bad breakups are a result of sex addiction?

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Well, a downside of food is people getting fat. If you're the kind of person who blames food for fatness, I can only assume you too are weak of moral character.

You're just being pedantic at this point.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by Plainsman

PB and Spanglish, I think you're making a wise decision, and I've said the same thing to guys as well (not just girls). The reasons for having sex outside of marriage are superficial and transient compared to the damage that it can cause. When I was having sex as a youngin', even when I wanted to "please" whoever I was with, it was a selfish act that I wish I had had the self-control to refrain from.

I don't think it's fair to basically pressure people into having sex if they don't want to. Not just saying stuff like "if you loved me you'd do it" but even stuff like "everyone's doing it" and "those horror stories are never true".

Do you think it's fair to basically pressure people into feeling guilty for having sex? I only ask because obviously you can't pressure people into not having sex; you didn't even have the mental strength to do it to yourself.

All I'm asking is, I guess, is where do you get off?

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?