Have you/would you stay with someone if they cheated?

I like how the thread starter made this thread just to start shit. What's up with that? Everyone has their little hypocracies, but that's how it is - it's called personality. If Alice doesn't believe people are hardwired to be monogamous* and yet is still in a monogamous relationship, why are you bothered?

* While it's true that we're not hardwired to be solely monogamous - which is obvious with all the cheatin' - we're also obviously not wired to be polgamous, otherwise marriage as we know it would not exist. Christ, it's obvious.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Lunar Seal

It is true that women tend to be the "emotional" cheaters, and get attached to the person they're doing the deed with. Whereas men tend to just do it out of need to get off.

What the hell, is this 1950? Do you all believe that women don't enjoy sex and men will do anything to get tail? Cuz, um. saying 'so-and-so TEND to do this' doesn't exonerate you, lady. This is hella antiquitated thinking.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

What's really lol is that a bunch of women are telling me that men only cheat for orgasms.

I don't know guys, maybe I'm the only one who ever heard of the long-time mistress stereotype.

lol 'men are biologically driven'

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Lunar Seal

Men don't only cheat for orgasms. Just a majority of them do.

Like I said before, cribbing your bullshit replies with 'well not all of them do, just most' isn't getting you out of this. If it were true that sex alone is a motivating factor for unfaithfulness, the majority of male indiscretions would be one-night stands. The world would not be gifted with the expression "she doesn't understand me". 'The other woman' would not exist.

It's okay though Lunar. You're allowed to be stupid, because girls don't know any better.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by Lunar Seal

But I'm not saying sex alone is the only reason for cheating. In some cases, it is. In some, it's not. It just happens that a majority of them are.

Drop your stats or leave forever.

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The thing about the other woman not existing. If you can find someone stupid enough to get involved with no strings attached, uh, yeah, it would turn into a routine thing.

You are an extremely sexist woman, Lunar. Let that settle in for a bit. You are under the impression that a man is simply incapable of creating emotional bonds with other people with the depth, strength and nuance that an emotional bond for a woman holds. Furthermore, you think that women cannot help but create these bonds. No, don't argue, it's very obvious to everyone who isn't you that this is how you see the world.

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Cheating for sex doesn't always mean it's going to be a one night stand because at the time you were just so horny, you couldn't control yourself. Clearly you've never had the pleasure of meeting a complete asshole in your lifetime. I've known plenty of guys, along with my own ex, that had someone else on the side but had no emotional attachment to them.

I'm very sorry that your boyfriend kept dating other women while he was with you, but I never asked for this information and I don't want it. Not all men are assholes, not all men who cheat are assholes, and you insisting that the majority of them are is airheaded bullshit. Your ancedotal evidence doesn't amount to a hill of beans.

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If you'd stop being such a bitch about this,

I'm sorry, there is no room for insults in the Quiet Place. if you can't keep your temper in check I'm going to have to report you to the forum authorities.

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but realistically, a good portion of those people are doing it for those reasons.

A good portion is by no means most, or a majority. In fact people usually cheat for more than one reason; you seem to think that I'm talking about people who cheat without having sex anywhere on their mind. You would understand my argument to be so if you were being needlessly obtuse but that's becide the point; what is interesting is that while you feel that men, the majority of the time, cheat with sex as a high priority, that women rarely do so. So - to your mind - very few women cheat with sex as a priority at all, and the majority of those cheatin' bitches are... in platonic relationships with the other man? Wow, you're weird.

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by Lunar Seal

Similiar experiences explain a portion of the population.

A portion of the population you have direct experience with. You do not have a large enough sample size, you do not control for age, income, color, or location, and worst yet you drive men to cheat on you. That isn't an impartial study, lady, and your results are thus thrown out.

Seriously, you can't be this stupid, can you?

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

I once got very, very angry at my boyfriend because he was emotionally close to a person I did not like or trust. He was the kind of person who would say "there are no secrets between us, what's mine is yours" but he would protect her from me, to the point of telling her she can speak freely over chat becuase I wasn't in the room.

If you think I was overreacting to something that wasn't there, I guess it's a good thing that you and I are not in a relationship. All I'm saying is that if my boyfriend's friendship with someone starts resembling one of VG's cuddlewhore sessions, something is fucked

In short Falldragon, you said your girlfriend cheated on you three times in less than a year and she had very close male friends. Perhaps this should be telling you something. It is a mystery!

FELIPE NO

Originally Posted by FallDragon

The issue here wasn't that [...] Of course, I'm really generalizing here because I have no clue what the details are.

And seeing as though you don't know what the details are, maybe you shouldn't tell me what the issue really is. Why are you arguing with me?

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Well I never said the guys she cheated on were close male friends. In 2 of the 3 cases they were practically strangers, or at least only knew each other less than a month.

There are these seperate occurances of the same thing, and other seperate occurances of very similar things... I just can't add them up! It must be a major coincidence.

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In the ideal relationship, both people should be able to have strong friends with the opposite-sex but know where to draw the line, because they both know how to respect the relationship they're in.

In the ideal relationship, friendships your mate makes should not creep you out. I couldn't give less of a shit if I tried if you disagree, or think that the problem lies in the creeped-out party.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

That's not exactly insight. Just sayin'.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by SlightlyOddGuy

First, I would never get sexually involved with my girlfriend. At all.

Is this some sort of religious thing?

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by SlightlyOddGuy

Indeed it is.

Hope you look for girls who share your views, then, otherwise you're just wasting everyone's time.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.