Sex: Take It Or Leave It

Originally Posted by rocketdog

Was he an intellectual? I consider myself to be an intellectual person

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Yes, I've had sex (over 200 times

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You can accuse me I wasn't good in bed, or I have no confidence... but I ask you, what if I don't care if I was good in bed? What if I really don't care about what society thinks of me?

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why is sex necessary anymore?

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Simply put I think he transcended the idea of sex, and so have I.

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if you transcend sex you stop thinking for yourself, and can spend that time thinking about humanity.

Ahahaha, oh wow. A lot of points to work with here. Umm... I'll keep it short, okay? What does society's image of you matter when it is your girlfriend you're displeasing? I bolded the relevant part because there's just so much of your intellectualism.

intellectual = the new stupid

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Angel Of Light

I still would, without a doubt. I can agree with what a lot of people say on this forum, that sex does indeed play an important part in a dedicated relationship because its showing the person how much you love them in a pysical and spiritual way. To me the most important aspects of a relationship is respect and understanding.

Would I like sex and intimacy to occur more often in the relationship I am in now; of course I would. Sex is probably one of the best feelings in the world, and even though I have had sex with my gf before, I probably haven't even come close to enjoying the full extent of it and more than likely I never will with the woman I'm with now.

I'm with someone who I practically have everything in common with in terms of our hobbies and interests and morals/attitudes toward modern society. We even hate and despise the same things. I wouldn't give all of that up for the best sex in the world.

Its not like she is not giving me any sex for her to punish me, its just her dealing with her own personal demons and her own low sex drive. I think I owe it to her as a respectful, understanding, and above anything else loving bf to give her patience and respect her needs, and her thoughts toward the subject of sex.

Deep down, different people have different needs in a relationship and there is absolutely nothing wrong with living your life how you want to live it, and if having a great sex life is one of those things you need in a relationship then its no better or no worse then those people who don't want a sex life in their relationship.

I just made a choice, a long time ago, that I would always live my life for the good of everyone else(especially the people that are important to me) and never for myself. I know its a poor attitude to have, and my friends and my family constantly remind me of that all the time because they constantly are trying to pursuade me to break up with her all the time. I gurantee that if I ended this relationship, 9 chances out of 10 my next gf would have a higher sex drive then the woman I'm with now. In my eyes its not worth the sacrifice with the strong emotional connection I have with her.

I mean, if dating an exact clone of you is exactly what you want forever, great, more power to you. Seriously, I hope you never change your mind. Don't delude yourself, if you're accomodating to her chastity she will have no drive to change it. And it is entirely unfair, you adorable little nice guy you, that she is locking you in a metaphorical tower because of her own personal demons.

Even still, with all the ernest that is possible over the internet, I hope you like chastity, and if some day you get sick of it, I hope your soulmate here would be willing to accept either change or cuckoldship. You do not deserve a sexless relationship, and she does not deserve the years of resentment that can build up in such a relationship.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by Chibi Neko

I am not actually, I just have a really low sex drive and I don't think sex is the top priority.

If that's the case, would you object to your boyfriend seeking non-committal sex from a third party? Let us assume that at the time, it is a priority to him.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by BurningRanger

Well, there's your green light man! Take advantage of this wondrous of most wondrous situations. At the very least, when she does end up getting jealous, you can call her out for being a lying, stuck-up bitch.

You're creepy.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by BurningRanger

I don't follow.

He's being given permission to sleep around. If he doesn't take advantage, he's a moron.

He's lying if he says he doesn't want to.

Why am I the creepy one?

You mean you wrote all that and don't know why you're coming off as a huge scumbag?

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by BurningRanger

I'm not saying it to be a scumbag. In his situation, even if don't want to fuck someone else, I would be driven to call bullshit on such a completely unrealistic statement. NO, she is not okay with him having relations with others. YES, she is a pretentious bitch for saying so to defend her disinterest in fucking her boyfriend.

Huh, what? But she just said.

Either you know this chick, or you got burned by something similar. Either way you're obnoxious.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

You know what's common sense?

When people you don't even know tell you that you're acting creepy, and then you stop whatever it was that you were doing.

This is not what you're doing.

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If that's the sort of relationship that they're happy with, I don't know what badgering them is going to accomplish. If you get really lucky maybe you'll get a girl to feel bad on the internet? That's not difficult.

and if me of all people is saying you might be going a bit far here, perhaps I have a point.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

Originally Posted by BurningRanger

Ok then. Maybe intrusive, but still not creepy. Even so, however, if they didn't want people's opinions, they shouldn't have posted.

Not that I don't agree with that, but do you really need to demand that the dude cheat on her today? That's the really creepy part.

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Originally Posted by Duo Maxwell

Eddie Murphy had a really good stand-up routine he toured with in like '87 concerning this topic.

Women use the "I don't really want it" attitude as a tool to get what they want from their male counterparts. Withholding sex works, with most guys, for whatever reason. I think it's a stupid game, but pretty much all women do it, whether they admit it or not. Yeah, now I can see the backlash already. "OMG DUO YOU CHAUVANIST PIG" "THAT'S SO NOT TRUE, DUMBASS" What? You think all men were born yesterday?

Okay, so what if the woman wants good sex?

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by Duo Maxwell

Even if the sex is good, they still use it as a tool.

No, you're not getting me. If a woman withholds sex in order to get what she wants, and she wants good sex, what does she do?

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Originally Posted by BurningRanger

I wasn't aware I had suggested that he do it today... or even with any kind of immediacy.

Originally Posted by BurningRanger

Well, there's your green light man! Take advantage of this wondrous of most wondrous situations. At the very least, when she does end up getting jealous, you can call her out for being a lying, stuck-up bitch.

If you're incapable of understanding how you come across, maybe you should stop communicating entirely.

I wonder how 'stuck-up' even factors into anything. Words mean things, people!

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by BurningRanger

words

You are oddly preoccupied with their sex life.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by BurningRanger

Indeed.

The argument being that you don't think it's right that she HURGHBLURGHBLOO

Do you have any peer-reviewed sources to back up your argument?

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Now, upon you saying that you would be okay with him getting his fix from other women, which is a foul and egregious lie, I can no longer stay quiet about this.

You show her who's the man in this relationship you fucking e-creep.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by Duo Maxwell

Probably finds it elsewhere.

I don't see what your point is. I said, "Women will withhold intimacy in a relationship to get what they want." Then, you basically say, "Yes we do, we like good sex, too." I think pretty much everyone likes good sex. What's your point?

You want a joke to have a point?

OKay, you're dumb and you need to pluck your nosehair.

I was speaking idiomatically.

you know, I don't get it. Someone writes a missive and refers to it as "the argument" which he's basically having with himself, and calls a broad with admitted personal problems a "stuck up bitch" a couple of times, and I'm the only one seeing that as creepy?

Doesn't he strike anyone else as entirely too involved in these folks' relationship? I mean hell, I don't think anyone else's posts are creepy sounding.

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Originally Posted by RacinReaver

He's just been writing all of those posts since you keep on responding to him.



I think you're alone on this one lurker.

Totally banned from my LJ now.

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