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Cobra Commander · Local time: Nov 2, 2007, 10:19 PM

Alrighty people, had my first relationship and my first break up within the same month! I don't know if you can really call that anything ( because it was so short) but here's the scoop

I personally thought things were going great but she tells me one day that she just doesn't feel right meaning she thinks she doesn't feel for me in that way. Now that part I can actually understand and have no problem with.

THIS is the part I have a problem with. She said she rather just get to know me better and hang out more as friends...But she is completely avoiding me now. I have tried a couple times to initiate a meeting or even just talking and each time I get no response. I mean even before we started dating I would get some kind of reply, but now...nothing.

Ok people so whats up with this?

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Cobra Commander · Local time: Nov 3, 2007, 12:04 AM

Thanks guys for the comments, and I really know you don't mean to be harsh. Just a couple of things though. We didn't see much of each other...maybe once a week, that's it. I did ask if it was anything I did and she said no but then again it could just be "letting me down easy"

I still haven't quite gotten over it, but I think I'm well on my way. I was my first relationship so mistakes were probably made (IMO I think I moved too flippin slow, funny because usually the problem is the opposite, hahahahaha)

Thanks guys for your opinion, if there are any more out there, I'll be glad to hear um...I wanna turn this into a positive for me

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Cobra Commander · Local time: Nov 3, 2007, 07:20 AM

Wow, thanks for the input guys. Although most of the advise was just to get the same points across I get what you are all saying. There are a few things though

1) I'm in my twenties (yes it's sad)

2) This girl has never been in a relationship UNTIL she has been good friends with the person first (this was not the case with me)

3) I thought the purpose of dating WAS to get to know the other person better

4) Moving on is happening, no doubt about that, though it took me a LONG friggin time to find her so I'm looking for another long wait it seems

5) I understand what you said about treating them like cotton candy and how that doesn't work, it's true I probably did that

6) I am totally on board with that honesty thing, I mean I know I was totally honest when i talked to her and stuff, and from many standpoints I guess she was as well UNTIL the break up...because she did tell me previously she doesn't like being mean so i guess I got my answer.

Any more advise other than move on, don't treat um like cotton candy, and don't worry about it so much?

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Cobra Commander · Local time: Nov 3, 2007, 05:00 PM

To answer your question surasshu I would like to keep this girl as a friend, I don't have many that are girls and well we did share a lot of the same view points and values.

But it's already been quite some time since she last contacted me so I think it's totally over. I put it to myself this way...if she really wanted to keep me as a friend or anything, I've already put my foot forward, it's her turn now.

Thanks for all the replies guys! Just gotta take the good with the bad and learn from it.

...Oh yeah, it's not like I am mad at her or anything like that so I'm not bitter, just curious was all.

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