NSFW - Serious sex discussion

Long post is looonnnnggg....

How do you come across the idea of sex and when?
Well it was a multi-stage process for me: I was around 5-6 years old and did cute things with a childhood friend like kiss and even do a little exploring of eachother's bodies. Really innocent stuff though. All I knew was that what I was doing was strange, fun, and something I wanted to experience again.

Jump ahead a few years and I sneak off with some friends to look at my dad's playboys. That was the first real look at a woman from a sexual standpoint for me.

If you could talk to your parents about sex in general, would you?
I know its something that should be fine to discuss openly, but for some reason the most I'll get towards that area is admitting to my mom or dad that I find a celebrity good looking or not. I can't even (Parents are divorced) make myself really listen when my mom mentions finding another man in her life. That along with sex in general are two things I don't want to know about or discuss with her. Yes its irrational and maybe even a bit juvenile but that's how it is for me.

Why is it our own family so DAMN shy when it comes to sex discussions compared to our stupid friends?
I really don't know... Its certainly easier (Although I should point out I never really did like talking about it at all, meaning I would hardly ever bring it up in discussion on my own) to discuss it with friends rather then relatives. I honestly don't know WHY though.


Do you take your friends' experiences at sex with a grain of salt? Or do you let it influence your decisions about sex in general later in your own relationships?
I used to let it get to me, but I've learned overtime to regularly tune my bullshit detector, and now I'm much less worried about it, and get jealous far far less often, to the point where I only get irritated if they should rub it in my face. I guess since I grew with many of my friends through teenage-hood, the desire to get it on was just something that came naturally and well, I wasn't getting in on that action unlike them. That did piss me off at the time, but looking back, I probably avoided some bad drama.

s your religion a HUGE reason why sex part of the discussion between you and your bf/gf is so prohibited?.
I remain eternally single so most of this question I can't answer.
However, my religious beliefs are somewhat... in a state of flux right now so I'm not really sure I can answer this truthfully. I have not had pre-marital sex, if that counts for anything.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Philia

Anyway, DN, I guess the question would be IF you got a girlfriend, is your religion a source of PRESSURE to NOT have sex or perhaps is your social culture a pressure to DO SO? I can see it really depends on the girlfriend and how she thinks about it as well. But I'm talking about you though. I imagine you'd give in quite easily under whatever circumstances... o.o' No offense.

Well... personally I'd say it would boil down to more of... the circumstances and situation involved. Like I know I would likely be ashamed if I were to pay a hooker or something crazy like that (I wouldn't), but if it were more of, say, dating someone for a year and getting busy at the anniversary, well I wouldn't really object.

The culture pressure to do so was a big one, and as I might have explained in my previous post, my friends 'success' a few years back made me jealous (Juvenile I know, but that's how it was), but now there's probably a greater chance I would resist if I wasn't comfortable with how things might be going. Still... you're probably right, I would likely cave in with only a little resitance

See the thing is, I've read from your experiences and others as well that some couples treat sex as less of a 'forbidden thing' and more as just another expression of their love for each other, and by doing so, they bring some sense of normality and take that act off its pedestal. In doing so, I imagine they made things involved with it less anticipatory and less nervous. Just a theory though.

There's nowhere I can't reach.