HAY GUYS

**RacinReaver** · Local time: Aug 15, 2007, 09:13 AM

I am going to get soooo much shit for this, and I am very likely in the minority, but a person's general appearance/my attraction to them means very little me to begin with.

Before you guys jump all over me, let me explain! Please! ;_;

There was this guy once, right? I thought he was so goddamned attractive. I could stare at him all day! He was everything I ever liked, as far as looks were concerned.

Until I got to know his personality. And I didn't like it at all. This actually made me find him unattractive. No joke. I started to dislike that "attractive" look he had before I saw what kind of person he was.

On the other hand, I've met a LOT of ugly people. Really unattractive - people I would never consider myself being attracted to. Until they showed me who they were, and suddenly, they progressively became more and more attractive to me.

So I guess my argument is more about how a person can become attractive over time.

I'm not saying this because I am fat (though Nadi's post kind of made me cry inside). I am saying this because I genuinely think that peoples' minds are a hell of a lot more attractive than how they sell themselves on the outside.

I could chock it up to my being completely distrustful of anything I see on the exterior of a person.

Sex is VERY important, though. But like I said, a person becomes MORE attractive to me if they have a great mind. Even if they're a hideous pile of poo.

I think it's more of a progression for me. I don't really "find people attractive" like a normal person, I guess. I am INCAPABLE of looking at a person and thinking "God, I want to fuck them." I can not even CONCEIVE of the idea before hearing them express theirself. I wonder if this is abnormal.

I just propped a sass post. I feel so dirty.

How ya doing, buddy?

**RacinReaver** · Local time: Aug 16, 2007, 09:16 AM

Originally Posted by Plankton614

I think I'm the only guy I know that really couldn't care less about sex, or physical intimacy on the whole. (Homonym pun intended, by the way). If I find the girl with whom I can connect emotionally and with whom I can converse to no end, why is there a need to connect physically? After all, the parts are always the same, just in slightly different shapes and sizes; personalities, on the other hand, are always unique. I recently confounded a more "free-wheeling" friend of mine with this logic.

Any reason why you're saying it has to be a girl if the physical part of the relationship and intimacy don't matter?

There's nowhere I can't reach.