eHarmony.

Or it could just be that people have had positive experiences with other methods of meeting people so they don't see a reason to completely supplant how they've been doing it.

If I'm really into doing drugs, I think the best place to meet people that share my interests would be at party where people do drugs. If I like to read lots of books, I could go to a bookstore or a library to meet people that do the same. If I'm into jazz poetry, I could go to some hipster coffee shop and try to meet women there.

It's not like I'm going to hit up an anti-war rally to pick up girls that won't mind a guy in the military, I'm doing my own sort of "personality tests" by choosing venues that generally cater to people with interests similar to my own.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Shit, eHarmony charges $50 a month? I guess that helps weed out people that don't have a somewhat decent form of income (poor grad students being left lonely again ).

There's nowhere I can't reach.

So I went through their personality test last night (loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo oooool at asking my interest in "Water Sports") and wound up with three people within my 'metropolitan area' right away (oddly enough, none within the city, all are in the outlying suburbs).

After reading through some of the profiles, I could see how this would work for certain people, though I don't really think I'd be that interested in any of the matches that popped up for myself.

Of course, I also lack a car while at school to actually go out and do anything with people from 15 minutes from out of the city, so it doesn't really matter a whole lot.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

I was just surprised that I'd get three as fast as I did, with how many people in here were complaining about not even getting accepted to the site.

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Sass, I'm curious, what's your feeling about traditional matchmaking services? You know, those video dating things, phone line ones (are they actually anything other than glorified sex lines?), and speed dating services.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Sass, how about speed dating? You're out there in a physical place (be it a bar, restaurant, or some other social place) meeting lots of people. Sure, it's a little more forced than just hanging out at the place, but you're still getting all the face-to-face interaction that you were whining about earlier.

Personally, the biggest thing keeping me from going out and meeting people isn't that I'm afraid of being rejected, it's that I'm really really fucking cheap and don't want to buy someone dinner when there's a pretty good chance I'll think they're an insipid meatbag.

Then again, I guess after going through the introductory eHarmony thing I can see the appeal to it. For example, I know I can't be attracted to someone that's not self-motivated and that's a pretty tough trait to pick up just by looking at someone (and a bit of an awkward question to ask someone on a first date).

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

So you don't want people with poor social skills to be able to enjoy their life? =\

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Originally Posted by Sassafrass

So not everyone is expected to live in a civilized society?

I'd imagine most of the people on eHarmony are able to hold down a steady job and manage to go out into civilization to buy themselves food and clothing; how does them not being able to smooth talk some lady from a blank start suddenly make them unfit to be in a relationship?

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

So if they are VG-esque then when they meet the other person the other party will be completely creeped out and he'll get dumped after the first date (or as soon as she goes to his house and sees his desktop).

The people that are completely socially adept will still get their asses dumped, though there's always a chance that maybe they'll hook up with some other socially moronic individual that otherwise might not get out and meet people.

Think of it this way, it'll keep the morons out of all the places you like to go to try and meet people. Fewer crap first dates for you.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Actually, on the point of only the inept using online dating services. I know my stripper friend who goes out to bars/parties/social situations every night she can (and plenty she can't) and still tries to meet people through MySpace and a few other online dating sites. Last guy I remember her saying she went out with she met on MySpace and she said he was a bit better than most of the other people she's dated recently.

How ya doing, buddy?

Hey minon, you met a couple of people off of the site, did they all seem like internet-recluse types?

Also, sass, I seem to remember you complaining about repeating yourself to devo and myself earlier in this thread. Ever wonder if you're really shitty at getting your point across and our comprehension skills might be fine?

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Guess it wasn't aimed at me for once, but there's the one at you yelling at devo for having to "repeat yourself over and over."

I'm pretty used to you complaining about it in enough PP threads, so that might be why I thought you were going after me.

Also, just had this thing at the top of my page while I was looking to see if they'll ever give me more than three people's info to look at a time.

Quote:

Q: "I'm an Opera lover and you matched me with a rock and roller!
How does eHarmony match?"

A:
At eHarmony, our compatibility matching looks at what is on the inside - the qualities that are vital to succesful relationships. We do not take things like life-style and shared interests into consideration as they hold a different level of importance for each individual. We invite you to share these items through the guided communication process and explore their importance to each of you.

If that actually means anything.

Edit: I didn't cap since I hardly capitalize anyone's username unless it's a two letter abbreviation.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Hey sass, I was just thinking. You keep saying how you like things to be the old fashioned way. Well, aren't arranged marriages the old fashioned way? No need to be able to chat some chick up at a bar when your parents set you up with the only other girl in your village.

Edit: Also, the girls at my school make me want to stay single.

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

You know, as much as I wished we lived in a village setting these days, I can't say it work in today's day and age.

And when I say "old fashioned," I don't mean medieval. You should know that. But hey - arranged marriages often worked out back then. I don't promote them these days, but I hear the Moonies do.

So you're not so much old fashioned as you just think things should be a certain way and you use 'old fashioned' as a way to make it seem like you have justification for your stance.

Also, I think SkyDragon is going to have an arranged marriage in a few years. I remember him talking about it a while ago in chat. It's hardly medieval times for him.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

Whats your point.

My point is that arranged marriages aren't necessarily archaic (PS, if I point out a spelling error on your part, does it mean I automatically win the point, too?). Hell, I'm pretty sure they lasted in Japan through World War II.

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