Sex: Take It Or Leave It

To me sex is something that should be saved for the right person, mainly because sex is a powerful emotional and physical form of love. When you have intercourse with someone it should be the right person, even if this is hard to know exactly but sex isn't something to me that should be just used as a form of pleasure, there can be substitute to that [and no i don't mean anything else sexually related]. I am not saying that it is wrong to freely have sex but think of the other person as well, make sure they take it as freely as you do, sex is a dangerous but necessary form of Love and can have very bad opposite effects if used improperly.

How ya doing, buddy?

For me it is more of just a moral thing. To me, i feel like sex should only be a form of love to be displayed only when you are with the right person.
Of course the whole, how do you know the right person comes into play, but i am just saying like Marriage, i mean, sure it may be loserish but to me i see no need to define a relationship by sex and some people can.
I just don't understand how some people (i had this discussion in my English class) can just see sex as a form of pleasure and nothing more. I mean, sure sex should be pleasurable but there should be more of a logical reason for it besides "i just want some pleasure" i mean, if you have sex, at least have some form of deep love for the person before, but i am just one of those kind of people.

As for something like marring someone who wants to have sex but you don't is hard, and interesting enough one of my friends has an issue like that, she doesn't want to have sex or children but her boyfriend does want kids (biological of course). This idea is the only difference between the two and it is just funny how something like that can maybe change their whole relationship! I mean, i shouldn't be too surprised but it sometimes is just...different to think about that.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by Angel Of Light

I just made a choice, a long time ago, that I would always live my life for the good of everyone else(especially the people that are important to me) and never for myself. I know its a poor attitude to have, and my friends and my family constantly remind me of that all the time because they constantly are trying to persuade me to break up with her all the time. I guarantee that if I ended this relationship, 9 chances out of 10 my next gf would have a higher sex drive then the woman I'm with now. In my eyes its not worth the sacrifice with the strong emotional connection I have with her.

That is truly a rare and great answer...if only all of society thought this way (well, where i live anyway) most of the time it is either sex or no relationship at all (hence why i am single) -_-"

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by nadienne

Right. Assuming they last that long.

Come now, don't discourage him

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by Chibi Neko

Thanks lurker, you really do seen to know where Angel and I are getting at.... the fact is that he believes that love, respect, and understanding is the most important part of a relationship, he REALLY is that kind of guy! I KNOW that he would never go out for a one night stand even though it is something I would not blame him for, because my situation is really hard to deal with...

besides, we do far more than just wait for my sex drive to boot up, we snuggle on couch to watch DVDs and play PS2, go out together, and spend a lot of time talking and having fun.

So BurningRanger, we are happy with things the way they are, so telling Angel so go out and get some is not going to accomplish anything because he is your opposite as far as the topic is concerned, not all men get a girlfriend just for sex.

Wow, it is interesting to know that they are still relationships that are not basted solely on sex...or maybe i just live in a sex-driven area. I mean, when it comes down to it, if both people are happy with or without sex that is all that really matters in the relationship and the fact that Angel is not the kinda arrogant asshole to just go get laid to make up for his girlfriend not wanting to have intercourse is a sign of respect and love. I guess for some it is kind of unheard of, a sexless relationship *GASP* but yes folks, it is out there...

Sometimes i worry that i will forget that there are actually people like yourself and Angel out there

I was speaking idiomatically.