How old is too old?

Originally Posted by David4516

First off, I'm not sure if this is the best place for this topic or not. Mods, feel free to move it to whereever you think it should be...

Secondly a little background on why I'm about the ask the question that I'm about to ask:

I'm 24, and I still haven't had sex. I've been waiting to find that "specail someone". I don't want to just sleep with any girl. I want to actually fall in love and all that stuff. But I still haven't found a girl that I really care for...

So here is the question: How old is too old to be a virgin? At what point does it go from being a good thing to just being sad?

I get the feeling that I may have already crossed that line, but I hope not...

in turns i applaud to your idea of waiting for the right person, sadly people have obviously come up with the idea that after 40 you are just a sad sorry excuse. At the age of 24, you are long from being too old and one of my English teachers i am good friends with is almost 30 and still a virgin. It is not about how long but the reason for the wait. Obviously if you are just scared of sex that is one thing but to wait until you fall in love is something that shows that sex is not just some pass time to you [not saying that people who think otherwise are wrong]. I guess in reality there is no 'wrong age' unless you are under 20, under that is kinda young to me...

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Originally Posted by David4516

Wow, I wasn't trying to start a flame war with this topic. Honestly, you people should settle down.

Also, I want to make it clear that I don't think I have more "self control" or something just because I haven't had sex. I don't believe it makes me "better" than anyone like some virgins do.

And I didn't really think it was nessisary for me to tell you all about my sexual history (or lack there of) for us to have a decent converation about the issue in general, but since so many of you have asked I don't see any harm in telling you about it:

Yes, I do try, I do put in some effort to find myself a girlfriend. I've asked out girls before, so far they've all turned me down. Thats not to say that I've never had a girlfriend though. I did back in high school, she actually was the one who asked me out. It didn't last very long though because I was just a dumb kid back then, LOL. I also have friends who are girls, so I wouldn't say that I'm afraid of being around females or anything.

I do have some things that I feel are holding me back however. I still live with my parents (thats the only way I can still afford to go to school), I know thats not very sexy. Also, I'm a pretty quiet guy. I am not "shy", just "quiet". But because of that, alot of people seem to think (mistakenly) that I have low self-esteem. Lastly, I don't have much in common with most girls I've met. My hobbies aren't things that 95% of girls would be interested in. I'm not really into pop culture (music, for example, is something I just don't care about), and I don't drink or smoke. My interests include things like Camping, Hunting, Martial Arts (been practicing TaeKwonDo for a few years now), cars, things of that nature. Guy stuff...

Sorry, I hope my life story wasn't too boring for you guys, but you asked for it...

Yea but then again, isn't that the point of being a male? To have hobbies and interests that males have. If you think about it that might be something that women are interested in and not just the guy who is exactly like me only a different sex. As for being quiet, i am shy and quiet which is a terrible mix, i mean, i don't have terrible self-esteem but i am also quiet which makes it worse, i guess i just fix that by finding something makes me less tense and less quiet, something like jokes, if i can tell a joke and a girl laughs then i am less quiet, i began to talk more. Just find something that can get you to talk and not have a girl stare at your while calling the police.
Living with parents is only unattractive if you are lazy and have no reason otherwise. School is okay because it shows that you are dedicated to something and that by taking the chance to go to school rather than live alone and just try and wait some women can find that very attractive and a form of better juggling of priorities which shows that you can handle a relationship.

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Originally Posted by David4516

Gumby, perhaps my location does have something to do with it. I have 2 close friends who never had any luck with the girls around here, but when they moved elsewhere to go to college, that changed. Actually, one of them just got married recently. They both told me that there's something wrong with the girls in this area...

I live in Beaverton by the way, right next to the Portland boarder. I've lived in Portland area for most of my life, but I don't really care for city life. I value peace and quiet, big citys make me feel a little uneasy.

yea, that really is your problem right there, you need to move somewhere in the city, women in the city are more prone to dating rather than the ones in the tri-country area. I don't suggest you should go 'live' at a dorm or anything but finding somewhere to stay in the city might be more useful for dating.

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Originally Posted by Newbie1234

Plenty of men wait until their 30s until getting married and such. Your 20s can be spent pimping. Well seriously, you're just 24, I wouldn't worry about it.

Reminds me of my English techer, he is only 27 and he said that the 20's are your single/wild years and your 30's are you life changing years.

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Originally Posted by a lurker

Says you, you're not the one fucking a bald, bed-ridden bag of tumors.

...dabu...that doesn't sound very healthy or moral in any way...

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by a lurker

Is it immoral for the elderly to have consensual sex?

No, as long as they keep it disclosed to the public i don't care who have sex at whatever age they want. Elderly may have lower sex drives which may be a reason it is not just an immoral issue since it isn't as noticeably popular as holding back until a certain age to have sex.

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Originally Posted by RABicle

Sounds like he speaks with experience regarding ages he HAS NOT REACHED yet.

i didn't say he was absolutely correct, besides he is only 4 years from his 30's so it is not like he is just turning 20 and acting like some psychologist...

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Originally Posted by a lurker

If you're not mature enough for sex by your mid-twenties, when most folks are starting their families, maybe you have a problem that you need to address.

being mature is a mental thing that people have to come to realize, not everyone will be 'mature' at 20s and just because people are starting families then doesn't mean that everyone must start families as well...

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Originally Posted by Sassafrass

I think you completely missed what lurker was saying.

Usually, by the time someone hits 24-26, they're pretty mature regarding sex. They usually spent some time getting the piss and vinegar out of their system and have gotten a little sick of the typical PARTY PARTY PARTY attitude. If they haven't, they've spent too much time in college if you ask me. Time to hit the pavement running, dumbasses.

And starting families really doesn't have anything to do with maturity. 14 year olds can start families. That's right out of puberty. They're certainly not mature enough to know anything about the real world - they haven't even graduated high school yet.

Yes but the way 'a Lurker' was saying it, he sounded like he was trying to say that maturity comes at the age of 20. I know that obviously sexually people mature, usually in the middle of the 20s like you pointed out and sometimes before.
Sorry Lurker if i misunderstood your post.

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