Your Relationship with your Parents

I would like to think that I have a good relationship with my parents, but over the last few years my mom has made my life incredibly difficult.

I love both of my parents very much and they have helped me through a lot of my tough times in my life. Whatever they have done for me I still respect them for it.

My Dad is the best person in the world, and the only parent that has truly been there for me all throughout my life. He has respected all my hobbies, and has been supportive of every decision I have ever made. he has helped me find summer jobs, and we have really good discussions. He is just a great dad, because what makes him a great dad is that he would wake you up 5 o'clock or 6 o'clock on a sunday morning when I was 10 years old and we'd watch b action movies like delta force, no retreat no surrender and many others that came on basic cable. He didn't care if there was swearing, blood or nudity, we just had a good time with it.

My mom on the otherhand is very controlling woman and puts these incredibly high expectations on me, that if you don't meet her expectations she looks down to me. Makes me feel less of a person because of it.

I'll give you an example; If you come home, and she asks what grade did you get on an exam, you told her you got a 99%, instead of congratulating you she'll ask why couldn't you have gotten a 100% and argue with me about it.

Throughout my entire life, I felt like whatever I did was never good enough for her. What really boggles my mind is the fact that she use to say that your not doing these things for me, you should be doing them for yourself. If thats the case then why is she criticising me for things that I feel are an accomplishment for me. She evens opens my mail if it says personal and confidential.

She just never liked how I turned out as a person, having all these interests that she thinks is strange or a complete waste of time such as:

1.) Anime
2.) Video Games
3.) Dance Dance Revolution

Whats really hurting my relationship with my mother is that she is on a neverending crusade to get me to break up with my gf because she can't stand her, because she is a pagan, she is into all the same things I'm into, and that she has a lot of animals. She thinks a lot of the things I'm into are childish and she eventually thought that when it came time for me to settle down, she thought I would give up all this childishness. She doesn't even consider my gf a real woman because she is into the same things I'm into.

Despite all the friction there is between my mom and I, I still do care about her and I try my best to look at it from her point of view, but she has to realize that she has to let me live my own life and learn from my own decisions.

Jam it back in, in the dark.