When you don't inherit your ethnic culture anymore

So, just to get this straight, the dominant culture is Indonesian, your mother is Chinese-Dutch, and your father is Chinese?

It's perfectly okay and normal to be unsure of your identity. The most liberating realization for me came when I found out that I didn't have to claim one or the other. Your identity is multi-faceted, not just in terms of your nationality or ethnicity but also in terms of your place in your family, your hobbies, your likes and dislikes. If you're curious about your roots, explore them. That doesn't mean you have to subscribe to everything that the culture believes in. As a quick example, take being Chinese. There are so many different ways to be Chinese. The experience of an immigrant will be different from the experience of the child born to that immigrant. Even in China itself, the experience of a Shanghainese won't be the same as a Taiwanese won't be the same as a person from Hong Kong.

Don't be ashamed or upset by your confusion. Instead, celebrate and feed your curiosity.

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