Executive Decisions

Originally Posted by Acro-nym

I've reached the breaking point. Over the past few years, I began noticing my mom making some decisions without consulting anyone. She rearranges the kitchen every few months. She got tile for the kitchen floor to be redone. She bought some piece of furniture that is used for storage purposes. She decided we needed a new oven and fridge. She replaced several of the dishes. She adopted (not in a legal sense) a kitten from next door. She was the one who decided what to change my sister's room into after my sister left for college (although now she's back, but the room remains the same). She changed the kind of toothpaste we use until I told to change it back, using dentist's orders to support myself. These are just examples that come to mind while typing this. Today, due to the soon-to-rise cost of AOL, she bought a five-month plan with People PC. There was no waiting until everyone was home to have a discussion. She just did it.

Am I wrong to think this unfair? Am I wrong to think that she's out of line here? Do any of you have to deal with similar people? I swear, I'm so angry, I can't talk.

Your mom probably does most of those things out of boredom. I mean, she's a stay at home mom right? She has to find something to do, because she's not raising kids anymore. It's not all that bad. It's just a lot of the little things that make you go crazy. Tell her to get a hobby.

Originally Posted by Tenacious D

I only get annoyed when my dad barges into my room when I'm getting dressed after a shower and when I yell at him to knock first, he replies, "this is my house, I'll knock when I feel like it."

You can two things to get him to quit. First, is bust in on him and reply with his same smart-ass reply of "I'll knock when I feel like it". Second is just to walk around naked. Nothing will horrify your family more. If anyone asks just say, "Well, dad keeps barging in on me so I thought I'd show the whole family.". Although that option requires a indifference to modesty on your part.

One of those options is bound to work.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Tenacious D

The only problem is my dad gets undressed with his door open anyway. I find it to be disgusting, but apparently "it's nothing I haven't seen before and we are family so what does it matter."

I guess I could consider walking around naked, but I don't think my mom or sister would appreciate that too much.

Okay, strike out on the first option then.

Second option; that works to your advantage. So your mother and sister bug your father to respect your privacy.

Which leads to my third option. Stop caring about your father walking in on you. Seriously, you've walked naked around the house now! What's there to really care about? Umm barricade your door.... Throw something at him? Uhh I'm out of ideas.

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Originally Posted by My Dreams

Interesting suggestion, though I wouldn't try it myself.

Edit: Actually, you could try locking the door.

I'm pretty sure that if his dad keep's barging in he doesn't have a lock.... so uhh I had to be creative.

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Originally Posted by Acro-nym

The main reason, I guess, as to why I get upset is because it seems to be unnecessary spending. We could be putting money towards more important things like fixing the deck or re-carpeting the downstairs or just plain having more money in the savings account for bill-paying and whatnot.

I bet you might be a little anxious about paying for that college education too eh?

You have to understand where your mother is coming from though. No children to raise, and life in the suburbs is tough. It's a constant competition.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

Your parents pay the bills. Unless you're contributing, then you don't really get a say.

Yeah, because it's not like he/she's actually apart of the family... right?

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Originally Posted by Sassafrass

Uh. No one is denying that. But the kids don't really get a say on the finances. Since, you know, they have no idea.

Parents are parents for a reason.

I don't consider sixteen+ years old a kid. That's about the time you should be learning to be a responsible adult, and treated as such.

I also think that the original poster has a pretty good idea about things that could be done that should be shared with his/her parents.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by AliceNWondrland

I don't care if you're 30 and still living at home. It is NOT your home. It's your parents' home, and you are living in it while they raise you. Then, when you become an adult (at age 15 or 50, it doesn't matter), you will leave THEIR home and get one of your own.

Not everything that goes on within a family is or should be a family decision. Children should be consulted about some things, but not about how the parents spend THEIR OWN MONEY.

Just what do you think a family is anyway? If anybody in a family has a idea for the family you should be "allowed" to make it known to everyone in the family. Does that mean you'll get your own way? No. Does that mean an additional viewpoint might be put under consideration? I surely hope so.

Originally Posted by AliceNWondrland

And probably, the reason you don't consider a 16-year-old to be a kid is because you are one. I hate to be the one to break the news to you, but 16 years olds ARE kids.

Not even close. Unlike your parents, my parents could trust me to make my own decisions at that age.

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Originally Posted by Sassafrass

You're still a kid, aren't you.

I said the same fucking thing when I was 16. By the way, 16 IS a kid. LEGALLY. You can't sign a motherfucking contract when you're 16. You are not legally responsible for SHIT. Thats why theres JUVENILE court. Thats why your parents are responsible for your ACTIONS until you're 18.

At sixteen you're allowed to get a driver's license that puts YOUR LIFE in danger and everybody else's life in danger on the road. I hope your parents thought you were enough of an adult to handle that. Otherwise you had no place behind the wheel.

Just because your maturity was retarded doesn't mean mine had to be either.

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Originally Posted by Sassafrass

You really think decisions should be left up to the kids in a family? Or that they should have an equal say as the parents

No, I just said that it should be put under consideration. Try reading everything.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

I'm glad your parents left you to fend for yourself at age 16. Those are awesome parents, dude!

When did I ever say that?

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Originally Posted by Sassafrass

I did. You seem to think that kids in a family have a say about finances.

Which is laughable. Unless, like I SAID, they contribute.

It's pointless to continue debating this with you.

I made my point, you made yours. Anybody who reads it can decide who's opinion to believe... or not.

How ya doing, buddy?