Executive Decisions

I've reached the breaking point. Over the past few years, I began noticing my mom making some decisions without consulting anyone. She rearranges the kitchen every few months. She got tile for the kitchen floor to be redone. She bought some piece of furniture that is used for storage purposes. She decided we needed a new oven and fridge. She replaced several of the dishes. She adopted (not in a legal sense) a kitten from next door. She was the one who decided what to change my sister's room into after my sister left for college (although now she's back, but the room remains the same). She changed the kind of toothpaste we use until I told to change it back, using dentist's orders to support myself. These are just examples that come to mind while typing this. Today, due to the soon-to-rise cost of AOL, she bought a five-month plan with People PC. There was no waiting until everyone was home to have a discussion. She just did it.

Am I wrong to think this unfair? Am I wrong to think that she's out of line here? Do any of you have to deal with similar people? I swear, I'm so angry, I can't talk.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

But, in most cases, but dad doesn't even get a say. He's the one that provides the income for the family. She doesn't even work! (Although she's trying to fix that.)

There's nowhere I can't reach.

The main reason, I guess, as to why I get upset is because it seems to be unnecessary spending. We could be putting money towards more important things like fixing the deck or re-carpeting the downstairs or just plain having more money in the savings account for bill-paying and whatnot.

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My belief is that since their decisions directly affect my life and the lives of my siblings that we should get a say. Maybe we don't want some things to change. Maybe we like the dish sizes we have. Maybe we like a gas stove instead of an electric one. They confide in us for other things, like where to go on vacation or what kind of computer to buy. So why should these things be different? Why don't we get a say?

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Originally Posted by russ

If you're mad about them replacing a gas stove with an electric one, then you're being fairly shortsighted about that, in that significantly rising gas prices makes owning a gas oven far less cost efficient than owning an electric oven. But you wouldn't know anything about that.

I don't like people claiming that I'm shortsighted and ignorant. I'm not. Sure, gas prices are rising, making an electric stove better financially, but gas cooks better. More still, here basic reason for replacing the dishes (which were perfectly fine, with some still not having been adequately replaced) and the fridge and the stove, from what I understand, was because they all needed to match the tile better. Nevermind that the fridge and stove were white and the tiled floor was black and white. No, they need to be black. Whatever.

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Originally Posted by russ

Well should your parents say "Hey Timmy we're remodeling the house and despite the fact that you're really only going to be living here full-time for another 6 months of the rest of your life, we are going to go ahead and ask your permission before we make any decisions regarding the remodeling. We don't want the next six months of your life to be in any way an inconvenience, so we're going to make sure that the remodeling, which will probably last 10 years or so before we need to remodel again, suits your wants, tastes, and needs over the next six months." Who knows, maybe with the money saved by switching to an electric stove, your parents will help cover a portion of your living expenses during college.

Maybe I should mention that, in all likelihood, they probably won't be there in six months. My mom keeps talking about how they're oging to move soon after I move out so that they can be closer to me dad's work. Really, buying dishes and a fridge (although, like I said, that isn't so much with the fridge) to match the tile seems really stupid when the tile won't be there in a new house... unless there just happens to be a kitchen with black and white tile in whatever house they decide to move into.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?