What do you do when your family is falling apart...

Hoy, that sounds like quite the trip there.

I agree with the above board members. As hard (and cold) as it may be, focus on your own life. You have goals, right? You have things you want to do, right? Do them. I don't know your age but if you are in High School/College, focus on your studies. You have to make sure your life is in order. It helps no one if you give up all your free time, your grades, etc. and leave yourself stressed to the point of a breakdown.

By doing this, you should also put some distance between all that is going on and yourself. You seriously need that distance or you are going to go nuts.

Keep in mind that they may not be happy if you suddenly devote more time to your studies/friends/interests. They may be angry, or may be cold towards you. They may act like you don't care. However, keep in mind that you DO care, in fact to the point that you are going nuts and asking people on an Internet forum for help. Furthermore, you have to keep your own head above water. What good is it if you also go nuts in all of this? Will it help anyone if you go nuts? Of course not.

I would also advice getting some professional counseling...for all of you. I'm not saying that in a mean way but for your own good. I, and the other forum members can only give some basic advice, but we certainly don't hvae the qualifications to handle this.

Jam it back in, in the dark.