Don't know what to do.

Hm, a tricky situation.

First, I admire your commitment to trying to find a way to make it all work.

Obviously, you need to be doing something so that you can support your wife and yourself. WIth that in mind, I think you should think seriously of your life goals. Both short-term and long-term.

If that means going back to school, then do so. Realize that this may require you, and/or your wife and family to make sacrifices. You need to discuss that with them to make them understand why what needs to be done, is done. You have to make sure people aren't thinking of just themselves, but 1.) everyone as a whole (that is, a FAMILY), and 2.) the long-term (if you were to get a degree, you could a.) move out of the house (making your 'rents possibly happy and perhaps your wife too) and b.) get more money (making your wife happy)).

In fact, once you figure out what you want to do (I have one suggestion below), think about even making a small presentation to convince others. Raise all the good points, and be prepared to answer the raised concerns.

Now...as for my suggestion to you...

Going to college, especially a community college is not a far-off idea. I went to one almost ten years ago, and they had a slew of online courses. I am sure that has only increased and improved by now. And online courses rock because you can work on them no matter if it's ten in the morning or ten at night. Just make sure the rep of the school is decent, and/or that once you are done with them, what you get out of it (a diploma, a degree, the ability to work in xyz places, the ability to go to higher-level colleges/universities/graduate schools, etc).

Another benefit of community colleges is they tend to be cheaper. And classes are offered both during the day AND night because they were made for people who work both during the day (and hence need night classes) and those who work during the night (hence needed day classes). Heck, for the first year or so, ALL my classes were night classes (or online classes) which seriously ROCKED.

Keep in mind that you need to discipline yourself with going to college, especially online classes.

A few other things.

1.) You are motivated. If you weren't, you wouldn't bother making this thread.
2.) Don't worry about 'time'. What do you get worrying about time. Instead of focusing on what you can't do with the time left, think about what you CAN do with the time you have.
3.) It's fine to aim high. I highly suggest it. But set intermediate goals along the way. When I create a program, such as Boggle, I don't just think about the final goal (making a fully working game), but I think about each of the intermediate goals too (1.) Creating the algorithm to check the pieces for words, 2.) creating the graphics for Boggle, 3.) Creating a way to allow input from the user, etc.). When I accomplish one of those intermediate goals, especially a tough one, I cheer. Again, aim high, but don't forget that just like the only way to get to the top of a tall builing with a ladder is by using the much closer rungs, you need smaller goals to get you to accomplishing that big goal.

Jam it back in, in the dark.