Jul 18, 2007, 05:25 AM
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Generally, I'm very old fashioned and don't want to move in together until marriage. Of course, that means that you won't find out about each other's quirks and pet-peeves until then. Usually, the first year is full of adjusting, compromising, and so forth (or so I heard and will very soon find out!).
Finacially, you're seemingly OK, but what about 'what if's'? What if one of you gets fairly sick? What if one of you has car problems? Also, it is always a good idea to try to save money for the future, but you may not be able to save that much at all with what you are earning. There may also be some possible resentment if you make all the money, and she can't use any of it for her 'play money' (as it would be right at this point in your relationship if you want to hold onto it).
Six months is also a relatively short time to be moving in together (let alone what I just said about my old fashioned views). I definitely would give AT LEAST a one year mark. Also, have you two gone through problems together? If not, that might make things hard, and if one or both of you need cool down time, if you both are in the same house, that might make things worse.
The fact that you are scared though IS a good thing. At least you aren't jumping into this blindly. What I don't understand though is...why can't you try to find two small apartments relatively close to each other? Or you find an apartment near the campus? Yeah, you might have to walk fifteen or twenty minutes, or take a bus or whatever, but that would allow you two to stay together mostly without having to live together at this point (or perhaps next year as well)...
Jam it back in, in the dark.
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