Question for the girls

On the rare occasion that a guy has had the absolute cojones to just walk up to me and ask me for my phone number, I can tell you it has never worked out well for that poor guy.

If you're going to just walk up to a girl and ask her for her phone number, you might as well just walk right up, stick out your hand and say, "Hello. I'm a shallow motherfucker who makes a habit of asking girls out just because I think they're hot. Nothing you say at this point will make me like you any more or less. In fact, I don't give a crap about you or your personality. You're just hot."

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Don't misunderstand me. I wouldn't want anything to do with a guy who didn't think I was beautiful. But just walking right up to a girl and asking for her phone number SOLELY because of how she looks is just creepy as hell.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Here's what I want. I want a guy who spends five minutes talking to me and says to himself, "Hey, this girl is interesting." Or smart. Or funny. Whatever.

If the reason he found out that I was any of those things was because he only talked to me in the first place because he thinks I'm hot, I wouldn't be offended (although ideally he would keep that info to himself). But I'm sick to death of guys who don't give a crap about anything these silly bitches have to say, as long as they have long blonde hair, big tits and weigh under 120 pounds.

Where you ever got the idea that I don't want to be seen as beautiful, I have no idea. But I get extremely offended by men who don't care about me, what I like and dislike, what I think about things, or about anything I have to say. I can tell you with 100% certainty that no one would EVER get anywhere with me if all they cared about was my looks. Women don't stay young and beautiful forever, and men who only care about things like that aren't worth anyone's time.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

99% of of the time I wear jeans and a t-shirt, so he'll need to ask someone else.

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by Smoodle

Ewwww, she thinks she can judge a man's personality within the 2 seconds it takes for him to muster up the courage and ask for her number! What a creep!!!

You can't judge anyone's personality within 2 seconds, so what kind of dipshit guy would think he could see a girl from across a room and know that she's worth asking out JUST BECAUSE SHE'S HOT. That's my whole point. It's ridiculous. Don't ask for a girl's number unless you've at least had a conversation with her.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Devo, you seem to have missed the part where I said that I DEFINITELY want my man to think I'm beautiful. I just don't want that to be the deciding factor. Every single time a guy has just walked right up to me without knowing the first thing about me and asked me out, my creep alarm has gone off.

HOWEVER, if I know a guy is interested in me because of me - not because he think's I'm bangable, then of course I want him to think I'm beautiful.

I like to look pretty, but NOT so that creepy guys will just prance up to me and ask me for my phone number.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Originally Posted by Devo

So you want the guy to find you attractive but how dare he SHOW IT until he's talked with you.

No. How dare he ASK ME OUT based solely on my looks.

Double Post:

Originally Posted by Ultima

Can't find a man that is of your liking? Just go lesbian already. I'm sure there are a bunch of women who feel the same way as you and chose the same path.

Good grief.

P.S. I'm married - I'm just saying, is all.

FELIPE NO

Originally Posted by Devo

Sorry but your looks are what brings the guy to you. I think you're in quite denial about this. How many guys are going to approach you otherwise?

You're approached based on your looks but they stick around based on your personality. It's silly to think that looks don't come first when you're a stranger to someone.

Well, like I said - I have no problem with a guy talking to me IN ORDER TO GET TO KNOW ME BETTER because of my looks. I just never liked it when a guy was so consumed with that, that he asked me out before even trying to talk to me to see if we even clicked.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

Originally Posted by Benjamin

Are you even that attractive? lol
And why must every thread you post in turn into some kind of holier than thou feminist attack on earth?

Actually, no. But not being drop-dead gorgeous doesn't stop certain guys from being completely focused on my looks. Everyone has a "type," I guess.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Hey, I didn't create the thread. I was just answering the question.

Smoodle, what do you understand? I didn't say I was hideous, just that I'm not the most beautiful creature to ever walk planet Earth. I've been hit on enough by creepy guys, trust me. =/

There's nowhere I can't reach.

I was responding to Benjamin.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

You know what, Plarom? I wouldn't have a problem with your first line at all, provided we had at least had a semblance of a conversation first. It's actually kind of nice.

But that's completely different than just strolling up and saying, "Hey you, can I have your phone number?"

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Yeah, it actually made sense to me too. =/

I just don't like the idea of someone just totally walking up and asking me for my phone number. It's just creepy. I can't believe any woman is arguing that.

I was speaking idiomatically.

OK, Smoodle. Look at it like this: You are actually able to pull off walking up to a completely unknown girl and getting her phone number without having any sort of conversation with her first. You two hit it off and you start dating. Wouldn't it always be in the back of your mind how easy it was for you to get her number? Doesn't anyone value a girl who is a little more discerning? It would worry me to think that I was going out with a girl who was so easily "procured".

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Originally Posted by Devo

I'm sure a lot of fine looking ladies have had their fair share of stalkers, so any attempt to suddenly invade our privacy does in fact scare us. Even just a phone number in the wrong hands can be quite the hassle. It's best just to give her yours and hope for the best. Or talk to her first before just outright asking for her digits.

What the hell, Devo? Isn't that exactly what I just said?

FELIPE NO

What. The. Fuck.

I said the exact same thing you said, woman. All I said was that a guy should talk to a girl first before asking for her phone number, which is exactly what you said, and you flipped out.

P.S. I wear very little makeup and NEVER dress like a ho.

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?