Needing Some Counsel

I don't think you need closure (just my opinion). It sounds more to me like you're jealous that he's with someone else and that he's happy. I think this is perfectly normal. If not, then I'm screwed up because this has happened to me more times than I can count. When I was young I would dump some guy and the next thing I knew he'd be with someone else and I'd be jealous.

The best thing you can do is to let him go. You said yourself that you two have talked until you're blue in the face. Communicating with him now that he's with someone else and happy is probably only going to cause trouble between him and his current girlfriend, not to mention confuse him.

Let it go, sister. If you had him back, you wouldn't want him anymore. Now isn't that true?

How ya doing, buddy?

Jeez, LeHah. How is it a bad thing to "leave" someone to whom you're not even married to date someone else? All dating is is shopping for a mate, anyway. What was she supposed to do? Stick with some guy even though someone better came along?

I'll never understand men.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Yes, that's the idea behind marriage, but it sure as hell isn't the idea behind dating. Dating is shopping. That's all.

Stick with someone you're just DATING even though someone better comes along? What the hell kind of sense does that make? By your rationale, everyone would marry the first person they dated.

Wow.

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No, see. How it works is, you shop around until you find someone you want to settle on. Until then, everything's fair in love and war.

My mama told me...you better shop around.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

I think it's a pretty safe bet that if someone else looks so much more appealing to you that you'd leave your boyfriend or girlfriend for him or her, there are problems enough in the relationship to justify a break-up.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Like you weren't. =/

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

God, you people are amazing. This girl is probably in high school - maybe college - and you expect her to stay with some guy she's just not that into anymore? Good lord, why not just get married at 14 and skip all the fun of being young and free?

You mean to tell me that it's not OK to break up with someone for ANY REASON when you're not married to them? I guess it would have been better for her to just stay with the guy even though she didn't really want him anymore, just for the sake of loyalty. Nevermind her happiness or the fact that the longer she lives this lie, the more it's going to hurt him in the end when things don't work out somewhere down the line.

OH WAIT...maybe there shouldn't be an end. Maybe once you start dating someone you should just stick with that person forever, no matter what. Some guy comes along who you're more compatible with, have more in common with, and are generally more attracted to, but OOPS! Can't think about those things. That would be "disloyal." Better to just lie to your current boyfriend and stay with him to save his tender feelings.

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Why not? My whole point is, she is NOT married to this guy, and she's probably very young on top of that. Why does she have any obligation to stay with him being that they are not married?

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Well, yeah, Sass. The jealousy thing is sort of what clued me in to how old she must be. That's just plain silly. Typical high school girl mentality.

But I completely endorse ditching someone when someone better comes along at her age and station in life. You're only young once. Why tie yourself down to someone you know isn't right for you at that age?

I guess maybe I was a slut in high school, although I don't think anyone would have called me one. Everything I did I pretty much kept on the low, but I'm glad I had fun in high school. I had a great time, and it gives me something to laugh about now.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Yes, I was knocked up at age 18. I already admitted I wasn't exactly a prude in high school. What's your point? Also, I never said anything about smoking pot, for the love of Mike. Why are you bringing that up here, anyway?

And LeHah, why does it always have to be my ass?

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Sass, I never said anything about pot. I just want to clear that up. I protested the harder drugs being discussed here and advice being given out about how much to take, etc. I NEVER SAID ANYTHING ABOUT POT.

But back to the topic...

Originally Posted by Azral

I told her to break up with me if she wanted to see someone else, and she didn't. She decided to cheat on me instead.

I'm betting 20 bucks the "you can break up with me if you want" was followed closely by "but I'll probably kill myself if you do." Any takers?

Sass, I wasn't a whore. Really. I probably did some dudes things I shouldn't have, but I wasn't that bad.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.