My Grand Romantic Gesture (thread 2.0)

Just be careful doing that. If you start trashing him you'd better have a damn good reason (one better than "He's a tool with no wit who makes up for it with good looks"). Otherwise you're going to come off as the immature, jealous, rejected guy.

I also wanted to say that a HUGE, HUGE, HUGE part of a relationship is respect. Assuming that you know what is best for someone even more than they do is extremely disrespecful. There's a lot that has gone on in their relationship behind closed doors that you don't know anything about. As Ginko pointed out, this guy could be the best thing that ever happened to her. Assuming that you know better than she does whether or not they're right for each other is condescending as hell.

Good luck to you, whatever happens. I do think you need to realize that if this girl was interested in you, you'd know it by now. It's not like she's married to this guy. I mean, they had only just started dating right before she found out how you feel about her. It's not like there was some serious commitment between them. My advice would be to move on, but I know you guys are stubborn and are really good at telling yourself lies in order to justify the fact that you want to keep hanging on.

Best of luck to you.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Just so you know, it's VERY RARE that a girl will ever come right out and say, "Sorry, I don't like you and you don't stand a chance." We try to cushion the blow by saying things like, "I don't want a relationship right now" or "I'm flattered that you feel this way about me." 99.99999999% of the time when a girl says something like that, she just isn't interested in you romantically and doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

Also, just because you two would make a great couple doesn't mean you ignite anything in her. She can think you're the greatest guy ever and know intellectually that you two would be great for each other, but if that spark isn't there, it isn't there.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Someone got up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. =/

And anyway, you're wasting your time with sprouticus (no offense, sprout). You see, sprouticus is one of those guys who sees what he wants to see, who interprets every smile as proof that the girl likes him even if she doesn't realize it yet. He's the kind of guy who knows what's best for the woman in his life, and what's best is definitely him!

Best to move on LeHah. This one is going to have to learn the hard way.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.