Thoughts on Marriage

I got married mainly for religious reasons. I mean, I love my husband, but the reason I married him instead of just shacking up with him is because of my religious beliefs.

If I didn't believe in the institution of marriage as an aspect of my religion, I'd probably still believe in the idea behind it since it "locks you in" much more than just deciding to be with another person. I think that once you commit to someone, it should be a pain in the ass to separate yourself from them if things don't work out. A lot of people are just too impulsive (me, for instance), and it would be all too easy to just go flitting from one person to another, which definitely goes against what God intended.

On another subject, I don't think a person can EVER know another person 100%. People are just waaaayyy too complex. My husband and I will be married for 11 years in May, and I am STILL learning things about him, and he sure as heck doesn't know everything about me.

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by eks

To add to this, I gotta say that people also grow and change thru-out their life. The more you learn about them, the more changes you see.

This also is part of why marriages end. One person will change (sometimes dramatically) and the other person may not know how to handle that change.

That is so true. I believe that's why people shouldn't get married until they're at least in their late twenties. It seems like we do most of our drastic changing before we're 30. After that, we continue to change, but not so dramatically and quickly.

You marry someone at 18 and you run the very high risk that they (and you) will end up being completely different people at age 30. People who in all likelihood will not be as compatible as they were in their late teens/early twenties.

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