Male and Female Sociology

I can honestly say that I have never been intentionally bitchy to a guy just because he happened to be interested in me and I wasn't interested in him. What a bunch of bitches you associate with.

For me, though, I know almost instantly whether I'm interested in someone. Very seldom has someone grown on me the way you describe, although it has happened a couple of times. Also, I try really hard to be honest with a guy, but sometimes you men make it so hard, either by getting all pissed off that a girl doesn't like you that way or by getting all whiny and sad about it. TIP: If a girl doesn't dig you, acting like a jerk or a crybaby isn't going to make her change her mind.

And Sass is right about the self-assured man. There's nothing more attractive, and there's nothing less attractive than someone who isn't.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Ayos, that "spark" you speak of is ESSENTIAL. I call it "chemistry" but whatever...it means the same thing. Here's what you have to understand, though. Sometimes it's there for a little while, then it's gone. And when it's gone, it's gone. Getting frustrated that the girl isn't trying hard enough to keep hold of that spark is like pissing into the wind. When she realizes - for whatever reason - that the chemistry that used to be there is gone, there's usually no getting it back.

Sometimes it happens for the silliest reasons, I will admit, but there's nothing she can do about it. Giving her a hard time, or getting angry or pouty will only make her feel less attracted to you.

There's nowhere I can't reach.