Sex: Take It Or Leave It

I was inspired by another thread to create this one. Are you one of those people who just doesn't care much for sex and doesn't see what all the hype is about? Are you or have you ever been involved with someone like this?

I dated someone exactly like this once. He just didn't care a thing for sex and made no bones about it. He assured me that he would do it for me until the end of time since he loved me and wanted to make me happy, but it just wasn't on his list of favorite things to do. I couldn't go along with that, unfortunately, and I've always wondered how people like this manage to function in relationships or marriages, since I would imagine it would be pretty difficult to find someone else who shares this indifferent attitude about sex.

Tell it, people.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Well, yeah, but I'm talking about people who you know for a fact have had sex and just don't care for it one way or the other.

And there really are people like this, as unbelievable as it may seem. Like I said, I dated one.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Regardless of the cause, how many of you could knowingly enter into a serious, long-term relationship with someone like that?

I mean, I'm sure there are people who could forego a great sex life in order to be with someone they truly loved. I'm not one of those people, but surely they exist.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Wow. That's exactly how this guy was that I dated. He was extremely touchy-feely-kissy, but when it came to sex - and it wasn't that he hated it - he just didn't really want it. Ever.

I wouldn't give up on having a relationship entirely, Soluzar, as long as you're realistic about the fact that it's going to be much more difficult to find someone who shares your attitude, which it sounds like you are. I'm quite certain that there are women out there who would be just as happy if they never had to bother with sex.

How ya doing, buddy?

Well, do you think it's normal? Be honest.

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Originally Posted by Dullenplain

As normal as homosexuality.

It may not be natural, but it still can be normal.

This statement could open up a whole big can-o-worms, but I won't derail my own thread.

Let me rephrase my question. Maybe then I'll get an answer that isn't quite so convoluted. Do you agree that not having a desire for sex would be viewed by most people as a "disorder"?

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

I guess it's about whether or not you could be with someone who's "ehh" to sex, although some people missed the point, I think.

FELIPE NO

Weak to yourself? What's wrong with enjoying sex? It's one of life's greatest pleasures, not to mention the fact that it's extremely important in a relationship. Good food, good sleep, good wine, good music and good sex...things like that make life awesome. Why deprive yourself or beat yourself up for enjoying them?

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

I take issue with the advice, as well. And I base my opinion about this on the fact that I used to be a huge pothead who only dated other potheads.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

I hate bananas. I'd definitely pick the hot sex.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

I prefer sleep and food to sex, but I agree that it's way up there on the list.

This question is to Angel of Light: If you had known then what you know now about your girlfriend, would you have gotten involved with her? Just curious.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Chibi Neko

So BurningRanger, we are happy with things the way they are, so telling Angel so go out and get some is not going to accomplish anything because he is your opposite as far as the topic is concerned, not all men get a girlfriend just for sex.

As long as you're both happy, I don't see what the problem is. If you're with a guy who will put up with that, he must have at least a somewhat low sex drive, so it sounds like a good match.

However, he did say several times in this thread that he wishes things were different. The bottom line is, sometimes we have to sacrifice our wants and desires for the sake of pleasing the one we love. It seems to me that Angel is doing all the sacrificing here. Would it kill you to throw him a bone every once in a while? Or at least get some professional help about your problem?

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It can only mean one thing: You are becoming awesome.

I was speaking idiomatically.