Tough times

Have any of you been through hard times in a relationship but still managed to salvage it in the end? If so, what was the big deal and how did you go about it?

I'm not just asking this out of the blue, obviously... but rather than advice concerning my own situation, I'm mostly just looking for ways to put it into perspective. So please, do share your experiences if you will.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

What's the trouble? Will you share?

I would but I'm not sure myself. It's more of a general feeling that things, somehow, are going downhill: arguments over the silliest things and defensive reactions are quickly becoming a habit, whereas sweet talk and signs of affection are reaching an all-time low. It's been a week like that, and I find it worrysome that this should happen now, not even a month into the relationship.

I would gladly compromise but I don't know what's expected of me. Despite numerous attempts, talking has accomplished very little so far.

I don't really want this to become the thread's main topic, though. As I said, I'm mostly looking for others' experiences to ponder.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

You may be onto something there, surasshu. I'm not clingy (I'm pretty much the polar opposite, actually), but we do get to spend a lot of time together. We're both piano students at the same conservatory, and neither her nor I can really practise at home so we pretty much have to spend the best of our days (8:30-21:45 in some cases) there. Wednesday is the only day in the week where we typically don't see each other.

The thing is, the time spent at the conservatory isn't exactly time spent together, per se; we know a lot of people, we have classes, lessons, practising to do... our days are stressful at best, and our breaks are few and far between. If/when we stay at my place for the night, we'll usually come home so late and tired that eating and sleeping will be well higher on our priority list than, say, having a good time together. If nothing is done, the pattern is bound to loop until the Christmas holidays, and to resume as soon as school will.

I don't know if that's the actual reason behind our current situation, but it certainly isn't helping.

I'll definitely find out more tomorrow, though. This morning she returned my call with an SMS saying she was sick and wasn't coming today, and that she'd "need to talk to me tomorrow". Whatever comes of it, it's a positive step, as it had seemed until now that I was the only one noticing (or admitting...) the issue and trying to solve it.

Who knows, I'm expecting the worst (and I bet I'm going to lose sleep over it), but I might be surprised.

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Addendum: apparently, I have it all wrong, and it's much worse than I thought. More on that tomorrow...

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.