No Talent in Consoling

I know it's very difficult to cheer others up when you're feeling the same way, but most of the time people just want to know that someone is listening and that they matter. It doesn't work all the time, but basically being able to rant to someone--no matter how many times you rant about the same problem--allows them to feel better about themselves. Even though there are few people with that kind of patience.

There are some things you can try. For example, you can use the line of how your friend has a purpose b/c he/she is still alive. Maybe list some of the good things about him. However, just listening to them and letting them know that their problems are not insignificant should help. If it gets any worse, then he may need to visit a psychologist.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Cobra Commander

I remember when I had that kind of problem and my friends kinda just ignored me after a while or came out and said stop complaining about it already.

So ya just letting them know that you ARE listening and do think the same way will make the other person feel better.

Amen! I had a similar problem with that and lost the majority of my college (and on-line) buddies b/c they got sick of me repeating the problem even though I didn't think they were listening. Then again, the college buddies had their problems such as "Should I go to Mass or Baptist worship service?" or "Should I dump him or not b/c my friends don't like his hair?"

Amen, Commander.

There's nowhere I can't reach.