Burning bridges

I'm mostly easy-going with friends. However, there are a few things that really get to me:

1) When a friend betrays me. Especially to the point of where I am confronted by someone who could ruin my whole future (or my already-flawed face) because they couldn't keep a secret.

2) When they tell me that my problems are "insignificant". I've had friends that talk about the same problem over and over again, and I tend to do the same thing. However, saying that my problems are "insignificant" is more of a rudeness sort of thing. You could say, "I don't have time to listen to your problems" or "I don't know what to do about it, so please don't talk to me about it anymore". B/C, quite frankly, their problems about whether or not they should stay with their boyfriend could be "insignificant" to me, but I still have the courtesy to listen and give different feedback.

3) Changing the topic abruptly to ignore the current situation. Even saying something such as, "Let's drop it" is fine, but to just turn around and start talking to someone else about their visit to a beach without a closing statement is sort of rude.

I'm normally easy going, and I'll stay friends with my friends who even ignore me for months b/c they want to be with their boyfriends. However, friends who do one of the three have a very slim chance at remaining a close friend and are normally dropped to the level of acquaintance (especially since most people don't apologize after performing one of the three).

Jam it back in, in the dark.