Your friend's exs

Personally, I'm a believer of that rule...then again, it's always been my friends who steal my crushes (not the same as boyfriend, but a little similar). I had a small crush on this one guy that was my best friend's ex. I asked her if it was ok if I could ask him out, and she said it was perfectly fine, but I never did. I broke up with this one guy--who I knew was trying to finanical advantage of me even though I don't have that much money--and 2 weeks later another best friend of mine asked if she could date him. I told her what I thought of him, but I said that if she wanted to she could date him since I only went out on one date with him. Their relationship lasted for about a month before she found out that he had 3 different girlfriends and a fiancee who gave HIM an engagement ring instead of the other way around. Nothing wrong with the engagement ring, but I later talked to his other ex's who told me of the thousands of dollars they spent on him and he only spent $3 on a Wal-Mart necklace (and he wasn't poor).

I know of people who went out with their best friend's ex and ended up in long, happy relationships (even marriage). However, tread lightly and think about if she is really who you want and not just some crush that you'll be over in a couple of weeks. Personally, I think it's fair game when it comes to love, but if you want to add a little more honor to it you could ask your friend about what he thinks of friends dating ex's in general (not specifying your case).

I have a crazy friend who didn't even date a guy, but had a crush on him and made out with him once about 5 years ago. If she even hears that some stranger, let alone a friend, has a crush on this guy--even though she already has a boyfriend--she becomes very angry and threatens to kill/cast evil spells on the girl. I wouldn't dare think about getting near the guy b/c of her suspicious nature.

It depends on how close of a friend this person is, how horrible the relationship ended, how strongly you feel about the girl, and a few other factors. I believe in the rule since relationships are less likely to last than friendships...and there are better guys out there than the ones my friends date. However, don't let the rule limit you if you want to take a chance. Like any rule, there are exceptions and if you are really worried about what your friend thinks of it then ask him/her about it.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by janus zeal

What about dateing someone who insists on remaining friends with her ex?
(that took/takes advantage of her and who has feelings for her)

How strong are the ex's feelings for her? My ex-cuddle buddy (still friends) has dated someone and still wants to be friends with them, but when his ex found out that I was hanging out with him (yes, my ex-cuddle buddy is bi now), he got mad and started talking about how I probably didn't like my ex-cuddle buddy even though the guy doesn't know me. Ironically, the ex has been begging the former cuddle buddy to meet me.

As long as you two want one another and she doesn't take whatever the ex says about you seriously then it should hopefully be ok. However, the fact that the person still has feelings for her and may be able to take advantage of her is a negative.

Originally Posted by Avalokiteshvara

What about forming a threesome with your ex and his new boyfriend? Serious question. Does the comment on maturity still apply?

I would say it would take a lot of maturity, but it's a little odd to want to have a threesome with the ex and the boyfriend (unless you want his boyfriend to dump him and date you). Plus, chemicals are relased during sex that create the feeling of comfort which could be bad if it's not serious.

There's nowhere I can't reach.