I seem to naturally skip the girl part.

Originally Posted by chaofan

Try this:

Talk about something that is happening at that current situation, then follow through. It's quite natural to do and you kinda lose that "tension" you get when planning what to say. For example, in your chem class the lecturer might fall down. You comment on that to the girl next to you and then maybe ask them if they're bored. Then where they're from. Then what they're doing after this "boring" lecture.

Follow through, know what I mean?

Take the current situation, comment on it, capture her attention, quick queries about her then ask if she's available after.

Neat and clean. No mess, no fuss. If she say no then move along.

Nice. Very Nice. I am very impressed with this answer, especially since I've never seen a guy think things through like that.

Originally Posted by valiant

Depends on completely what school you go to. C'mon now, Private school...everyone remembers everything. And girls...hardly ever forget either <_<

Originally Posted by Denicalis

The worst thing that happens is someone says no, or looks horrified. It's fucking school, man. You take your lumps, and the next week no one even remembers you got rejected. Plus, you might get a girl out of it. Worth the risk.

Hmmm...I have to go with Denicalis for this one. I wanted to ask this one guy out, but I didn't until one of my friends said that he was trying to lose weight in order to get a girlfriend b/c he was desperate for one. So, one day my friend decides not to wait until I give the signal, and in order to make him feel better she said, "I know someone who is interested in you." He asked if it was me and she said maybe. Then, he got one of those horrific looks (more like "Oh" and looked away silently) and he never really spoke to me again and vice versa.

I attend a private liberal arts school where there's only 1,500 students. I seriously doubt that he even remembers that day (November last year). To most students, there are more important things to worry about other than someone who asked them out months ago that they didn't want to go out with. With all the classes, work, drugs, and sex; who has time to think about things like that?

Anyway, I say go for it. It doesn't have to be an actual proclaimed date either. I don't think you even need for the lecturer to fall down either. Think of some sort of dance or dorm event or something going on and ask if she wants to go with you. Remember, if she says that she's not looking for someone, you can always save it (and turn the tables on her) by saying that you just meant as friends. That way, you keep your dignity while she doesn't worry about you drooling over her.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Dee

I have to disagree with this. Cynically speaking, she's going to know that you asked her out, not as friends, but as something else.

I would go with everyone else and say go for it, there's not much to lose. And if she ignores you after that, then she's just not worth your time.

It works with men, but it's your call.

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Originally Posted by Monkey King

Not as well as you think. Once you've been downgraded to "just friends" status, interest is going to bottom out. Man and women can't really be friends as long as one party still has the desire to fuck the other, and men realize this on at least a subconscious level.
Well, assuming your line isn't "Nice shoes, wanna fuck?" or anything like that.

Oh! You thought I meant it like that. I meant something along the lines of, in case the girl was taken and there's not a real chance at all, not about just being friends until she's available again. That doesn't work as well. However, I'm talking about in order to avoid embarrassing yourself if the girl is not interested in you so she doesn't run around talking about them asking her out and possibly getting her boyfriend after him.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Mojougwe

Before the forum crash, I used to be the know-it-all with these psychological problems. Several members even looked up my profile info and msged me on AIM for further help. I was completely awed by the responses my advices have been getting. But now, I've become the victim of a problem induced by my own self.

Well, I went and asked her to go out with me, out to Chili's. She wanted to bring a friend and I just went ahead with a, "Ahh, nevermind then.." response and immediately she forgot about her friend. I don't know if it's the fact that it looks as if I were going to pay full or if there's something admirable about me, but step 1 = complete.

Awe! Congratulations . I hope you two have fun at Chili's.

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