63 year old woman 7 months pregnant

Originally Posted by AliceNWondrland

It takes so much energy to be a good parent. I can't imagine someone that age having enough stamina to be able to physically keep up with a child. I don't know...maybe she's in really good shape for her age, but still.

Also, how well would a person that much older than their kid be able to relate to him or her? I know that grandparents raise children all the time, but I've always thought that kind of situation isn't ideal.

I have a friend whose parents abandoned him when he was born, so his great-grandparents started taking care of him. I think they are in their 80's or 90's now and he's about 20, so it is possible to raise a kid and have it be semi-normal, but there is a definite age barrier and he once lost his job and his car priviledges for 5 months because he wouldn't cut his hair.

If this is going to be their first child, then I can see why they would want to do it (in order to pass along the blood line, feel ready to become parents, etc.), but I agree with you that it isn't ideal. There's so many things to consider such as birth defects, what would happen to the kid if both parents died, how detrimental is a hyper-active toddler going to be to their health, and other factors about how the child would relate socially with the other kids.

If she can handle it then congratulations, but it just seems very risky and there are kids around the world they could have adopted (to avoid the health risks), unless Italy has some strange adoption laws.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by PUG1911

It absolutely should be her choice. Problem is, she probably made a poor choice with that freedom. She can *think* that she'll be just as capable a mother as a 30 year old all she wants, doesn't make it true though. A lot of people have kids for selfish reasons, they just want one, regardless of how poorly they'll be able to see to it's needs. Sure they have that option, but that doesn't mean that people shouldn't at least shake their heads about such a poor decision. Having freedom to make a choice doesn't mean that the choice is 'right' just because you felt like doing a thing.

I have a friend who wanted to have a baby when she was 15 or 16 so she could marry the father and be with him for the rest of her life. Luckily, he was hundreds of miles away so she couldn't reach him. Now, she's almost 20 and last month became a mother. I do agree about some choices being unwise, but the child psychology thing does come into play. However, how does it work when it becomes a teen and she's in her 70's?

I am cheering her on, but this could get either very ugly or very interesting. Maybe both.

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