Passive/Aggressive

I am passive when it comes to fighting, which is really messed up because half of the messages I received from fellow martial artists and my father was to fight when necessary. However, since my high school and college have this "zero tolerance policy" where even if you were trying to defend yourself you get expelled no questions asked, I have been confused for a long time in how to handle people and that frustration leaks out in strange ways.

However, I do get aggressive with people who annoy me, but not in a physical sort of way. The person I'm staying with is a great example since I am forced to live with her until mid-May. She doesn't have a life and thinks that she has to act arrogant and prove people wrong in order to like herself. So, I do little things that annoy her such as turn down the AC and leave the light on when she's trying to sleep. It's not a lot, but she does become annoyed by it and I have less of a chance for getting suspended.

After all, when talking to people doesn't work, you need to take action right?

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by Zio

Yeah, that happened, I got a nice 500 dollar ticket with a twenty day school suspension. Good thing my parents and I fought it. They weren't pissed at me for gettinga ticket for defending myself. They were pissed at the school cause why should a kid be afraid to defend themselves especially if they are well poor enough that a 500 dollar ticket would fuck up the budget and etc.

My parents told me to always defend myself no matter what in a physical situation, they would take care of any problem afterwards.

My dad says the same thing. My mom doesn't think that fighting is the answer though, but I'm daddy's little girl/butt-kicker (the first thing he tells people about me is not about my good grades or my other achievements, it's all about the karate). I think it's wrong to charge someone for defending themselves. After all, if they don't learn to defend themselves in fights, then we are taught to be subservient to anyone and everyone that oppresses us. At least, that's how I feel about it and the mix messages frustrate me.

It's great to hear that your parents helped you fight it. I come from a similar background where even $300 would mess up my budget. No fines here, just expultion and being taken to court for criminal charges. I'm all for peace and love, but not everyone is into that, so what do they expect us to do about it?

There's nowhere I can't reach.