What is wrong with me?

Originally Posted by nanashiusako

I agree with the others that it is a fear of rejection AND a fear of commitment. You like the chase, I think. =)

I agree. There are so many good explainations of the possible problem you are having with women. I have a similar problem where if a person becomes too clingy and acts like they don't have a life unless I'm around, then I get nervous that they will take away my freedom to make other friends and I end up getting mad whenever I see them. That's one of the problems I have with the person that I am currently residing with. Ironically, I have a problem with big crowds sometimes if I know that these are people I will see over and over again who could embarrass me.

I don't know if you have a fear of rejection, but it could be a fear of commitment/loss of freedom. Or maybe you just like the rush of the chase and when that chase ends you get bored and end up avoiding them b/c of that lack of rush. It sounds like you already know what is wrong, but you just need to find a way to change it (if you want to change it). One thing you might need to remedy the problem is to meet a girl that leads you on enough to make the chase interesting and leave you always on the edge of catching her while being available enough for you not to see it as a lost cause.

However, finding someone like that could be difficult, so you can either talk to a professional in figuring out what really needs to be done, or decide for yourself whether or not you want to change part of your personality or keep things the way they are.

Jam it back in, in the dark.