College/High School Relationships

How well do you know the person? Based on personal experience, I wouldn't recommend a long-term relationship like this since college tends to change a person's way of thinking and seeing the world. Don't get me wrong, I've met some really awesome college people, but there are some acquaintances who one day would be wasting hours of my time listening to them debate about whether or not they should dump a perfectly good guy and then a semester later saying, "I'm sorry, but you shouldn't talk to me about problems that seem unimportant to me."

Do you all have similar goals not created by hopes of hooking-up? I have a friend that recently got married and her husband wants to attend a college in West Virginia. However, my friend knows of a graduate school in Virginia where they have the best laboratory and perfect program for her career choice, but she is torn because now she has to think about how this will affect her husband instead of thinking about her own plans. I know long-term doesn't mean marriage, but long-distance relationships are really hard to keep up and it's so easy for the guy to break up through e-mail and then disappear without closure.

If you are certain that he is the kind of guy you want to be with, then hang out a few times throughout his first semester to see if the feelings are still the same on both sides. I wouldn't agree to a long-term relationship right away, but a couple of dates couldn't hurt if you know the guy very well and go with another couple.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Ok, I apologize for all the misconceptions in my last post. I'm used to women talking about whether or not they should date older guys. I say go ahead, but don't rush off to the altar after she graduates high school. I've seen too many of those relationships fail or the people regret it years later.

There's nowhere I can't reach.