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Dude... stop obsessing over Erin. Seriously... you keep bringing her up and you are definitely going to be viewed as the creepy stalker type. Nothing is going to come of your continued obsession with her... except maybe a restraining order at some point.

Let her do her thing... you do your thing... and who knows, maybe somewhere down the road she'll contact you. But don't sit around expecting it. Go do things... meet people (bars... coffeehouses... etc)... realize that there is more to life than Erin Erin Erin. Besides, all dames named Erin are psychos anyway (or just the one's that I dated) ^_~

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by The Dopefish

I've read/heard all this before. Maybe you should let me do my thing?

I probably am crazy for her, but until I come up with something to keep me occupied with my free time I'm not going to just drop her all at once. She's not giving me much reason to keep my obsession, however.

And yet you keep posting about it in here... seriously. If you don't want to hear/read people saying the same thing over and over again maybe this isn't the place to posting it. People are going to say what they want in here... period.

But rock on... do your thing... don't listen to the guy who is in his mid-30's and has a bit more time under his belt. But in that same mindset you might as well not even bother asking anyone else for their opinions either because you're just going to tell everyone to let you do your thing anyway.
You started this thread... and you could have simply let it disappear... but you chose to post again. You knew someone was going to say something... so before you pretty much tell me to piss off remember that you opened yourself up in here. Enjoy your misery...

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Maybe what she's looking for and what you're looking for are two different things? Just be a friend... a non-judgemental ear... a shoulder... offer opinions, but not advise...
If you care enough about Erin then you will do just that and not think of your own wants or desires. It sounds like she isn't even sure of what she wants and might just need to have someone else to use as a sounding board. But in the end it's her call... not yours... and you have to respect her wishes.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by The Dopefish

Seems to me that if she doesn't know what she wants then how can I be sure of how to act with her? There's probably an obvious answer to that.

again I'll say it...

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Just be a friend... a non-judgemental ear... a shoulder... offer opinions, but not advise...

Nothing more...

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Originally Posted by Dalkaen

If you're curious about whether or not she is interested in you, it would probably just be best to ask. If so, you can easily move on from there. If she's not, then you can just drop it and be friends or whatever.

I wouldn't even do that until she got her head on straight... which it does not seem to be from what I've read. Nothing worse then a relationship with someone who isn't quite ready for the emotions that go into a relationship... someone is going to get hurt... and badly.

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Originally Posted by The Dopefish

I'd like to be in love for once, not just infatuated with someone. Making close friends is all well and good but I'd like to go through the motions of a relationship just to have it happen.

Something to keep in mind... one cannot love another unless you first love yourself. If this were the sewers then that comment would be taken the wrong way... but here it's a simple phrase.
You clearly are not completely comfortable with where you are in life and have difficulty even making friends. Why try taking that huge leap into an intimate relationship with another person when you can't really have a casual relationship with others? It makes no sense to me...

And while you'd like to be in love and experience the highs and lows of being in love... don't force it. You want it but the harder you try to attain it the less likely you are going to find it. You've heard the saying right? Once you stop looking it will fall right in your lap, but while you are seeking love it will never be found.
Relax and let it come to you... otherwise you're going to turn into one of those weird creepy guys we all hear about on the local evening news who are wanted in connection with some bizarre sex crime that involves dustpans and nail polish...

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?