Different interests

Originally Posted by Avalokiteshvara

Don't focus so much on yourself. If you want to be more interesting in a conversation focus on her. Keep a look out for potential topics she mentions, remember them and ask about them when the conversation lulls. Of course, this is what I was taught to do in a business setting where you're talking with near strangers. Not sure you can pull it off forever in an intimate setting.

I don't think you would have to pull it off for the length of the relationship; I imagine that the more you use this technique, the more you would open your partner up, and so you'll eventually end up not needing it, knowing them so well anyway.

I guess you could also just try introducing a few topics about things you are interested in so you can find out her opinions. Remember to keep an open mind and don't be offended if she doesn't like something you do. I find that people appreciate the ability to mock things you like instead of standing your ground and being defensive, but obviously make sure you're not giving the impression that you are trying to suck up to her in any way.

Jam it back in, in the dark.