Double Standards

Originally Posted by Crash Landon

The double standard that annoyed me for the longest time is the "asking-out" ritual. Under most circumstances, the male is expected to ask the female for a date. We're supposed to step it up and make the first move because women are vain creatures who need to feel desired.

This would be fine, if not for the fact that so many women play it coy and do their damnedest to appear wholly disinterested. It's aggravating to know that we men are expected to be mindreaders and that the reason you came back for an extra packet of sugar is because you want to be asked out. How the fuck are we supposed to know this? To us, it looks like your coffee wasn't sweet enough.

I absolutely hate learning that a girl was interested me, well after the fact that she's given up and moved on. I may not be the best at flirting, but I'm capable of picking up basic clues. Help us out, ladies. Don't sit there all shy, playing impossible-to-get, then bitch and whine when we don't notice you.

If a man likes a woman, he's expected to say something, right? Well if a woman likes a man, she should get off her fucking ego-trip and speak up. It'll cut through a lot of ridiculous gesturing and the two of them can actually be happy together. *GASP*

I'm a woman and I can completely agree with this. Although I've never been so forward it's only because I've never had reason to be so. But I've seen one of my best friends sit there and do nothing because she wanted the guy to ask her out, and I see this as nothing more than her wanting him to make her feel wanted. I was so irritated; if she was that interested she should've gotten over herself and asked him out but she never did =/.

Why is it such a big thing for a woman to ask a man out? Geez, sometimes men can be just as shy or egotistical as women can be. Each situation is different isn't it?

Jam it back in, in the dark.