What is cheating?

That sounds pathetically ignorant, but hear me out.

In this day and age, how can you define it? Does it count as cheating if your partner is texting someone with a crush on him and they exchange rather explicit photos of each other? Or are we still in the old fashioned era of adultery, where only physical interaction counts?

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So for instance, if you only hear about it say 4 months later and from the mouth of a jealous friend, that would be cheating? It's just I always held this view that allowing others to get that close and to show revealing pictures of yourself to them would still count.

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Originally Posted by DragoonKain

I agree with Devoxycontin. Just because you violate their trust does not mean you cheated. Cheating on someone is nothing less than an intimate sexual moment with them. It can be a kiss or it can be sex. A hug is not cheating. Going out to dinner with someone is not cheating. An intimate sexual moment has to occur.

If your significant other gets pissed because you went out with someone for a dinner or something simply as friends, then she is the problem not you. She has to trust you that you'd never cheat on her until proven otherwise. If not then it is her fault for being overcome with jealousy and IMO is disrespectful to you that she doesn't trust you.

Does it count if they've been text dating? For instance, naked pictures of each other, texting talking about how much they want to fuck each other? As far as I am aware (or would like to believe) nothing happened physically, but this still pissed me off.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

It's quite bizzare and certainly too complex to put the whole story up but this little segment I would say was my fault. My boyfriend disagrees entirely, but there had to be something to push him over the edge. I found out a while ago about this, but things are basically sorted. Except for when I get to thinking about it and it just makes me really angry. I guess I've been looking for somebody to say for definate that this is allowed to rile me up so much.

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Ah, well I fight against that kind of talk. We were having problems at the time, always arguing; it was a mixture of his fear of rejection (he's really gone through the emotional shitter concerning past relationships) and my almost entire lack of a libido. If I had made him feel more wanted, he wouldn't have. He said that he reacted to her (by the way, she was a close friend of mine, until I found out, and for that matter, a friend of his to boot) because she made him feel wanted. I failed to do so and as such I don't blame him for turning elsewhere. I blame the little hussie for trying to steal my boyfriend though =/

I know it sounds very cliché of him but he said he realised how much he didn't want to lose me when it dawned on him what he had been doing, and as such "broke things off" with her. It just bothered me that he didn't care to tell me; I think I would have prefered finding out like that than through friends. It also bothers me that he still saw her as a friend for two months after.

I guess it also stings because I always thought she was prettier than me. Perhaps not as nice as me (that shows that she really wasn't at times; I never usually compliment myself like that), but certainly more desirable. Turns out for a while she was. And Electric, I hate to admit it but I do worry. My boyfriend and I have been going out for nearly two years now and there have been rumours of other events but since it's only hearsay provided by my ex and also two girls who were jealous of me for my partner, I'd rather not hold much stock to it. I'm more of the "innocent until proven guilty" type.

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