Drinking Problem?

Okay I've been worried about my boyfriend's drinking habits for a while now. To begin with I was okay with it; I mean there's no way I'd stop him going out and drinking until he's pissed with friends and so forth, but thanks to something he let slip the other day, it would seem he's now drinking half a bottle of spirits each day. That's 5 times what he should be drinking. I want to talk to him about it and tell him I'm worried but then I'm not exactly t-total myself and I know he'd just call me a hypocrite. How can I make him cut down? I don't want to see him drink himself into an early grave =s

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Well, I don't drink excessivley, but I do drink every day. Though it's within the guidelines as far as I'm aware. I guess that doesn't make me hypocritical...

I'll try not to make it such a confrontation then. I'll just make him aware of how I feel and see where it goes from there.

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Originally Posted by Render

Have you tried approaching him with that feminine thing that girls do? You know, like talk softly and lovingly to him, maybe ruffle his hair a bit and say you're worried. Try it when he isn't pissed. I know this would work on me, so it's all I can offer.

I like the sound of this approach, as much as it would scare him (I'm not so good with being feminine...). Thanks, I'll give it a try.

As for my own drinking, I thought that the daily "allowance" for a woman would be 3 units, which I stick to. As for the examples you gave of screening questions ElectricSheep, I may have felt perhaps one of them at one point, but based on what you have all said, I don't think I have anything to worry about; I can't see myself getting out of control. If I didn't have a drink for a while I don't think it would bother me.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by OctoberOmicron

1. Does he have an alcoholic`s tendency? I mean, I was generally wasted everyday for three months (including my first two months on this board when I joined) in 2001. When I finally got over it, I had no need to keep drinking. My body didn`t desire the shit.
2. Is something going on in his life or is this just buddy stuff?
3. Are you sure you aren`t what`s causing him to drink so much? Hell, I`ve been in that position many times. Sometimes it`s the only way you can stand some people.

1. Pretty much every time I talk to him he's telling me how wasted he was the day before, and I see him an awful lot =/

2. Well, he's going to uni at the end of this month, but he's never said that he finds the thought distressing. Apart from that, I can't think of any reason why he would.

3. This is what I've been asking myself. Being entirely honest, I wouldn't be suprised if it was me. I'm not the easiest person to deal with, but if I'm a bit too much to handle he always lays the law down or gives me some time to cool off. Although he already had a reputation for drinking before I even met him, maybe I made it worse?

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Oh I don't think it's a boast, it's just that it seems it's all he ever does sometimes. Hence my worry. If the majority of the time I haven't been with him, he's been drunk... =s

It's without a doubt something I have to address properly to him, I don't want to see drink destroy his life. I've already tried to talk to him about it a few times but I find it very hard to be confrontational. I've told him I'm worried several times, but I'm not sure he knows quite how worried I am.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Heh, it's an anxious face. Thinking about it, I'd like to see someone try and actually imitate that...

Well I was thinking of taking it to that level, but the only issue I suppose is that he doesn't live with them, so it would be indirect. Maybe he'll listen to them though, it's worth trying.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?