Mad or sad?

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

I've recently noticed that there are two kinds of peoples' responses when it comes to getting yelled at or made to feel bad or humiliated.

Some people get really sad, want to cry, and seem to need a hug really badly.
Others get really angry and fight back, even through tears of uncontrollable anger.

Actually, neither. When someone yells at me, or insults me, I just feel humiliated and ashamed.
For example, I have a lab partner for programming assignments, and she's handed in the first assignment and got a 99. I've haded in the second one, and got a 91. Now, granted, the second assignment is much more difficult, but I felt ... ashamed and guilty and just overall horrible. She wasn't mad or anything - in fact she felt relieved because she couldn't figure out the last question, but I still felt like a failure.
I'm the kind of person that just gets red and looks in the ground if someone insults them or speaks harshly.
I try my best to avoid confrontation, but don't get me wrong. I'm not the kind of person who gets lovey dovey with an abusive person just to make it go away - I just can't handle yelling at people when they fuck up or yell at me.

Jam it back in, in the dark.