Perverted Thoughts

*may offend those with a weak stomach*






First off, this is my first post in this forum, and I've never even bothered to lurk through the topics here. But I was told to post here to ask for help.

Anyways...

I have this serious problem regarding my pervertedness, but it's mostly an issue of masturbation. For several years I would get off daily, sometimes twice or three times a day. But after recently hearing about how much better it feels to wait off for several days at a time (2-7 day intervals), I have been trying not to fap to it each day. My problem is that I often keep failing and my drive for pleasure is too strong for me to hold back. It certainly doesn't help my case when, as of lately, I've been reorganizing my porn collection.

Now - a close friend of mine offered me some advice but everything this person offered doesn't seem to work. He has said that I try to focus on something else and do other things instead. Unfortunately I get bored a lot of the time. And when I'm bored, sex is the very first thing to enter my mind. Doesn't seem to matter where I am either, be it when I'm in class not doing anything, when I'm in a car ride or when I get into bed and try to sleep.

A girlfriend is out of the question for me. If I get one it only gives me less time to be doing the things I need to get done, and it also prevents me from getting as good a mark as I want to in school (everyone in my school is a bunch of chatterboxes, but that's for another subject). Please don't bring up getting a girlfriend as my solution.

I haven't tried these out, but maybe one of these options could be my answer?

a) take up drawing art,
b) start taking up exercising (it's something I seriously need to be doing more often anyway),
c) a combination of the two.

I'd really love to have some help on this. Keep the fapping jokes to a minimum if possible. I'm really not in the mood for humor right now.

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by Ulysses

I don't really see how any of those options could substitute for sexual release.

A lot of friends (who are into artwork) have told me that drawing helps them relax from a stressful day or whenever they're worked up over something. I figure exercise would make me less lazy and that it would get me off the computer more. Being active with something (physically or mentally) takes my mind off the subject of sex and onto something more productive. I don't know if either of these methods will work, but it doesn't hurt to try.


SemperFidelis - there's not a whole lot of places to visit in my city, and I don't have a job yet, but I guess a change of attitude is on order. Thanks for the tips, I'll be sure to try out your recommendations sometime.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by Summonmaster

Make absolutely sure you get up out of bed right when you wake up, and move straight from the toilet to the shower if that's part of your daily routine. Those are the two most dangerous times. Also make sure you never sleep absurdly late, and maybe wear clothes for going out instead of house clothes.

I always tend to sleep in in the mornings, but I see why you're saying that since there's morning wood and all. Also, does 12AM/1AM on weekends sound absurdly late to you?

Originally Posted by Avalokiteshvara

What would you be doing with the toilet that would be at all erotic?

Nothing. It's the cleaning up after you take a piss that provokes touching yourself, I assume.

As for your other statement, I already go to a Catholic school so I guess that makes me a Christian. Our family doesn't follow the religion as much as we should, though (and I'm aware that fondling yourself is going against it, so all the more reason to be holding back... or to not do it at all. But the latter would be impossible for me and I don't think that not doing it at all is good, as the occasional fap can make you feel better emotionally and psychologically as well as physically).

Originally Posted by Alice

I have to agree with Ulysses. What is the problem, exactly? Is the ten minutes a day you're spending in the bathroom really cutting into your productivity that much?

And I'm sure everyone's going to think I'm coming at this from some religious or motherly standpoint, but I'm really not. Porn is bad news for a young person. I think it's fine for adults who have had and/or are having plenty of real life sexual experience, but I think with young people who - to put this bluntly - aren't getting any, it just leads to extreme sexual frustration and a completely unrealistic view of women and sex in general.

If I had to diagnose your problem, I'd say it's probably the porn.

Like I said in my initial post - holding off for anywhere between 2-7 days provides better pleasure since the prostate gland has to build up proteins for the next ejaculation. There's a wiki entry on it here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orgasm

I can agree with you on the fact that porn for minors is bad. True, I still am one (16 years old) - but I don't think porn is a problem for me if it's not making me want to actually have sex with someone IRL. I can contain myself; and as for porn making women look like sex objects - I certainly don't view them as mere toys for me to jam my dick into. That's just how the media makes them out to be (and the media, in most cases, is wrong, IMO).

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Cellius

I know this might be a little hard to do given the context, but what if you just completely deleted your entire porn collection? I actually did this not too long ago and it can be difficult - as I understand it you do take an amount of pride in the size of your archive and the accumulation of it - but when I actually emptied my Recycle Bin I really felt much better and oddly liberated in a way.

I don't have as much porn as many may think. Nowhere near ten gigabytes, I probably have one gig of porn at the absolute max. But the reason I'm going through my collection is so that I can delete the majority of it (95% of it is mere images that are drawn like shit) and keep the best only.

Originally Posted by Moon

The best cure for perverted thoughts is music. Especially music that takes your entire attention and emotionally involves you. Rips the perversion right out.

The Music Exposure Club (free admission using the gff multipass!) is a most excellent place to start a collection of aural sex. Get to it!

Truth be told, I actually have over 200, maybe 300 gigabytes of VGM and film scores and I try to listen to as much as I can. I'd be interested in the MEC if there was more than just heavily underrated/unheard of mainstream albums posted =p But that's the whole point of it so I have no reason to complain.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by Drexlerfan22

Now, if you honestly don't want a girlfriend because you think you don't have time for one, here's a very straightforward answer for you: you're wrong. You definitely have time for a girlfriend right now. How can you say you get bored frequently, then turn around and say you don't have time for a girlfriend? High school relationships are NOT highly involved.

Well, I should have said that I don't have time for a girlfriend because it's simply inconvenient for me to talk to people during/inbetween classes. I've got a lot of homework recently and not a moment to spare, because my main concern regarding school right now is to get the best grades as I can so as to open up more possibilities for university and/or a carrer that I'd like to take. But I admit my fault about being bored. It seemed like ages ago that I wrote that initial post and nowadays my schedule has filled up... but I guess that's a good thing.

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I 100% guarantee that your life WILL get much, much busier in the years after high school, so I don't see how that's a good reason, unless you seriously plan on remaining a bachelor for your entire life. (not that you can expect a LASTING relationship to develop out of high school... which is why I didn't care for high school dating, myself).

Nah. I don't plan to remain single my entire life, but I'll most likely stay this way for a few years yet. It seems there's a lot of breaking up going around in the journals today, ironically.

Originally Posted by Ozma

16 heh? So it means you're still a first-year student, if I don't mistaken. Shouldn't first years be the most pleasant times in high school? That means you should have a huge load of things to be done. Try taking up things you like that takes concentration and dedication in it. Interact alot with others; this MAY keep your mind off those pervert thoughts...as long you don't hang out with slutty girls.

I'm in second-year high school, in Grade 10, actually. I don't know what that is in American terms... I'm guessing sophomore.

The first years are great, I agree, but not in the same sense as yours. The only real time a person gets to slack off is when they're still a kid. Enjoy it while it lasts, I guess - I can only imagine the workload piles up more and more as the years go by.

I take up CD/video game music ripping as a bit of a side hobby right now, and so far that seems to be working... of course, I'll be getting a job later on, but I'll keep myself busy with that in the meantime.

I was speaking idiomatically.