Needing Some Counsel

Allright. I dated a guy, my best friend, for about 2 years. We broke up because I wanted to see someone else. (I had been hanging out alot with this someone else) And now I have been dating Tom for a while.

Recently my ex and his new girlfriend have been posting journals and graphics lately on a site we all belong to, and I honestly did not expect it to hurt so bad to see them together. And happy. And her being a better girlfriend than I had been. I wonder if he is happy, and I wonder if he ever thinks of me.

It's such an endless string of thoughts that I've even been dreaming of him.

I need a little help.

Should I talk to him about all that transpired? I feel like we've done it enough. We've argued and yelled, and talked and lectured... I feel as if it's all been said. But I still want to say more.

Should I try communicating or leave it at that?

(Tom probably would not enjoy me talking to my ex again, but I still don't feel like I have closure...I'm sure he would understand that)

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by AliceNWondrland

If you had him back, you wouldn't want him anymore. Now isn't that true?

Very. I guess I am jealous. It's hard not to be, when the first person you ever had a serious relationship moves on.

:sigh:

Thanks Alice. I appreciate the input.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by SMX

You sound like a typical female that got bored because your ex no longer made you emotional. If so, my advice to you would to grow up and and get some substance. Also, leave the guy alone, unless you want to start shit with people. Which wouldn't be very surprizing.

Talk about starting shit with people.

Butt out unless you're going to be useful, please.

Double Post:

Originally Posted by gukarma

I think you should just enjoy Tom for now. No point in making your ex feel like he is on top of the world and giving him false thoughts about you still having feelings for him.

I do enjoy Tom. We have a really healthy relationship. Still, it's only been a few months.

But you're right, I really should focus on the present. I can't change what's already been done.

Thanks for the advice ^_^

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Watcher

I personally don't think it's jealousy. Many people who once broke it off with someone who they've been with for a long time sometimes wonder what they're up to, just out of curiosity. A few of my friends do that too. Aise, what you're feeling and thinking is natural. Everyone thinks about their ex and wonders how they are going at some point.

Btw, I posted my reply and it was similar to what the others have said... where was my thank you?? lol j/k

Thank you very much, watcher. ^_^ I appreciate the good advice.

And yea... I was with the boy a while. We had been friends for a few years before hand too, so when we broke up..well.. it's been longer than I've ever went without talking to him.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Allright. So while i was gone somehow I've left him for no reason blahdey blah blah. Yes. I'm 17. High school. Now excuse me, but here's the story.

We had been friends since I was 12. We dated for 2 years not so long ago. Through those two years we had ups and downs like any normal relationship, but the hardest was him leaving for college every fall, which was 100 miles away. My car is not reliable. I did not make the trip that often. He made the trip as often as possible. He eventually, after a year or so, lost his license. When he came back, he worked a lot of the time that we had wanted to spend together.
I got a job at a small town food joint. I made friends with Tom, and we hung out. We talked a lot, hung out a lot, and basically spent all of our free time with eachother. Andrew knew I was around him, because a lot of this time with Tom was spent with his friends and my friends as well.
Anywho, I realized that I would be much happier with Tom. I clicked better, I got a better vibe, I was and still am much happier than I have been with any one else. I had no way of telling Andrew. I couldn't. It hurt me and him. I never did more than kiss Tom while I was with Andrew. Yes, it's cheating, but I broke it off soon after that began. Yes I agree it was childlike.
I do realize this.

All I was asking for was some advice on if I should talk to Andrew again, because yes I was jealous, but not only because he has a different girlfriend, but because I'm not his friend anymore. I'm not the person he talks to anymore. And given our huge past, I thought that was understandable.

I do not want him back. I do not want to do anything but talk to the kid.

Jeez, people. Blowing this shit out of proportion.

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by Aise

Should I talk to him about all that transpired? I feel like we've done it enough. We've argued and yelled, and talked and lectured... I feel as if it's all been said. But I still want to say more.

Should I try communicating or leave it at that?

^^ way to miss the big picture

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?