Girls, myself, and religion apparently can't mix

Well, try to understand from their point of view. A very common case I find is when a Christian girl or guy starts dating someone outside Christianity and isn't strong enough in faith, slowly but surely, they start to leave, no matter how morally set the other party member is. Doesn't always happen like this, but pretty common.

I can suggest 2 things right now.

#1. If you're opened minded about it and stuff, try going to church with her and stuff, I'm sure it'll really make her happy to that you're trying. If it doesn't work out for you, then you'll probably have to face break up. Under any circumstances, I'd ask that you don't take her away from her religion if worst comes to worst.

#2. Break up, and stop dating religious girls. Pop the question casually earlier in a new relationship if they're religious.

Your choice though, you could call this 3 times the charm and see how church might work out for you and her. I'm Christian myself so I'm trying to be as least biased as possible here.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

I don't understand why you have to be so offended by what I said, or sound offended. Anyways, here's a reply.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

O man, what a crock of shit.

The same could be said of atheism. I think you're a little biased, aren't you. Must be Christian. "See it from her point of view." WHAT point of view? "I want you to believe what I believe NOW!" ???

The same could be said for atheism indeed, so why is it still wrong? It happens, so I don't know why you'd call it a "crock of shit".

When I said see it from her point of view, I mean how she feels dating someone that it outside her religious circle. The parents usually worry about their child and they usually know that themselves, so to try to make things for comfortable, they ask them to come to church or whatever to try it out.

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O, who are you kidding. Why should anyone have to "try going to church with her" when she's not necessarily willing to forget about her god in return?

The point of going to church wasn't to get in the sack or something like that. It was to see if this was something for him. If he were to go to church to only get closer to her and fake it, then it's not going to work out later anyways.

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Yea, no shit.

If you agree with what I have to say, there is no real need to say that.

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Originally Posted by Guardian

Sassafrass, you are my hero (heroine, apparently!). <3

One other question that's been riddling me. If a person can dump another because of religious beliefs, how can they morally keep friends who are of different faiths or none at all? You can expect only your partner to hop to God's side of the fence while your best friend can go scot-free? Are there separate rules for platonic and romantic relationship?

A friend and girlfriend is on different levels though. With friends, I maybe ask them once or twice if they want to hear anything about my religion, if not, then I can say I gave it a chance. As long as they don't pressure me to do drugs or anything of that sort, then they're friends to me, Christian or non-Christian.

With a relationship, if you're looking long term, you'll be living with this person and seeing them basically everyday and waking up beside them, I don't know why I can't explain it right now, but it's a totally different aspect than having a friend who is non-Christian.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

I suppose you can never please everyone. I'm not going to continue this arguement since I know it'll be endless until one of us reaches the "i win".

I will reply to one thing though:

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If religion is soooo important to you and yours (the general "you," not you personally), what the hell are you doing with an atheist.

Because you love them, so naturally you'd want them to be saved so you can see them in heaven as well.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Guardian

Is this why she dumped me? Because IF there is a heaven, she absolutely has to see me there for her to have a happy life on mortal Earth? Sounds more self-convoluted to me than really having anything to do with actually believing in God.

I know I keep interrupting with my lame questions, but I'm really in the dark about the specifics of religious relationships.

Haha, don't worry about it . I personally don't know how to answer because a lot of Christians go about different ways of doing things lol.

How ya doing, buddy?