I found a girl - there is a god! Or not?

Alright so I just met this girl. And I really like her. And yes, you bastards, she is a music talent

Anyway my problem is as follows. I love spending time with her but after further discussion with her I've recently discovered she kind of goes through guys like cake. The longest she's been without a boyfriend is 3 weeks according to her. This was a huge turn off.

Which makes me wonder. I FEEL like she genuinley likes me, but with a turnover rate like that, this girl is probably used to emotional attachment, detachment, and can't think very beyond a relationship just because she "likes the company". She even speaks of her "exs" with no problem, no change in expression, as if it doesn't bother her whatsoever - cold even.

Other characteristics of her:
+ very outgoing
+ always similing
+ a bit immature
+ divorced parents
+ troubled family

So... has anyone else undergone this scenario or this type of girl. If so, what execution did you follow? Should I try to be the one to "change" her ways, or should I just accept the fact she is a leech and not bother with her anymore?

:aargh: :aargh:

edit: Also she is asian. Just wanted to toss this in there so that cultural sterotypes also became variable in the equation.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Thank you all for our sometimes wise advice

The trailing theme I notice is that I need to take my time, and I guess you guys are more than right.

My last relationship was a very serious one, and since we broke up more than a year ago I have always viewed all encounters with girls since as "long term investments". Not to mention my past relationship moved so fast, probably because we were so young (18) that I'm used to quick motion - I've forgotten what the chase is all about.

My mind is a little more calm now, and I've only known her for 1 week now. Despite the fact we've been cuddling almost every night and sleeping together (no bases broken) I'm going to tread softly on this one and TAKE MY TIME.

To sum it up I guess I've learned from responses and general concensus, that the moral of the story is serious relationships do indeed take time and patience, two things I currently lack, but will adapt to.

SUCH WISDOM IN THE FORUMS

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Point well taken. I will probably try to kiss her today. I'm not a fan of cuddle-buddying. Fuck that.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

OK.
So we kissed... had the obligatory make out session, etc. etc.
But now there is a new problem. I guess she has the reputation about being a player, and I too have the reputation about being a player on campus.

So we've been talking more and more, and now I just get the feeling we are just trying to "out-play" eachother. We constantly talk about how neither of us are putting emotion into our interaction, we are both indrectly trying to get eachother to admit that we "need" the other person, but we both constantly deny it and claim we are both so strong. But I KNOW (or think I know, maybe she is real good at putting on a show) she is putting emotion into it, and I know I am.

I feel like it's just turned into this huge battle of egos - a competition to see who can hurt the other seemingly emotionally untouchable person. Who breaks first?

This is downright retarded... but I can't seem to back off or else I lose!

I'm in college now - this is such childish bullshit.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by LeHah

People that are players do not make posts on GFF asking how to get a girl.

I guess I posted cause this is the first girl I think I might have feeling for ever since I broke up with my 2 year relationship ex. nearly 1.5 years ago. So it's all new feeling.

In that 1.5 years I probably went through 5 other girls, all wanting a relationship, so it really gave me the upper hand.

But this is the first "challenege" in a long while, and I might actually be looking for something out of this one.

I was speaking idiomatically.

It's a story that travels along the lines of:

1. nice kid gets heart broken by 2 year relationship
2. becomes real sad and builds up emotional barriers
3. i've always been a decent looking kid, so i start to abuse my charm to reel in other girls thus hurting several of them cause once i realize i have "power" i just let them go. all this occurs while i still have my ex in mind.

4. i finally get over my ex girlfriend, and now this girl comes into the pictre
5. i can't seem to win her over easy since she has about the same relationship experience as I do. She knows she is good looking, and abuses her cuteness, and that stirs confusion in me since I think I might really like this girl, but I wonder if it's worth it or i'm just being played.

5a. I've personally never been played before.

6. thus I come to the board to see if anyone has dealt with simliar situations or has the same ideas as I do.

that's about it.

What kind of toxic man-thing is happening now?

Well, things were going nice... Lot of lust between us for a few days - we almost had sex...

Then I asked her to date me (cause she was still kind of hooking up with her ex I wanted her to myself, you know)

And she inverted. Went cold, passion went dry.

Fuckin' bitch! Knew that was coming. God damnit.

FELIPE NO

Originally Posted by Duo Maxwell

If you go into a situation where you're dating people expecting to find some like incredible love-of-your-life relationship, you're going to be disappointed continually.

I think this is the key in my situation. I'm always thinking long term.
Damnit.

How ya doing, buddy?