Getting over the looks

People are visual creatures let's not deny it, and we work partly based upon visual attraction, at least initially anyway, but stunning good looks do not develop personality or a strong character, and let's face it, looks fade (unless you're Demi Moore, I joke, but she does look good at her age you've got to admit) and things get saggy, it's just a fact of life; you can't stop your collagen and elastic fibers to get old and stretchy nor your bone loss.

Why? Who knows, maybe due to mass media telling us what is beautiful and what we should have, maybe our instincts on good potential mates (don't want a sickly person, right? We need to have good progeny), or something else, I don't know, nor is that the topic at hand, but life is a lot easier for beautiful people (easier to land a job, easier to find a mate, just easier), and as luck would have it, most people are ugly (by whose standards? Who knows, but the same goes for how there are more overweight and unhealthy people than there are lean and fit people), sad but true.

Anyway, what I want to know is how you get over someone's facade to really get to know who they are, because at the end of the day, it's the person inside that really counts? If there were a mantra like "Shallow Hal needs a gal" I'll go ahead and repeat it, but I don't expect Tony Robbins showing up on my doorstep anytime soon to use his wizardry on me. I think it's unfair that we judge people so suddenly over something they have no control over. And I'll admit, I am shallow to a degree, it's just how we are made, and some of us can break out of that habit, but if there's a 10-step process to get there in getting rid of all expectations, I have no idea what it is. Do you?

Jam it back in, in the dark.