If your parents didn't like your bf/gf...

...what would you do? My now ex-girlfriend broke up with me for that exact reason. Her family is very close-knit, and her parents stated rather clearly that they would never accept me into the family. It was literally a choice of "them or me". There were a couple of other small issues, but we discussed those and mutually agreed they could have been resolved/were in the process of being resolved. We now have a very close, strong friendship. However, I am still very much in love with her, and would like very much to resume a romantic relationship. She however refuses to, due to the whole parents issue.

So my question is, if your parents forced you to choose between your blood or the person you were in love with, which would you choose?

EDIT: Mind you, I'm not going to knock anyone's opinions, or use this to say to her "Look, see?" It's just something I'm curious about. Gauging opinion.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Originally Posted by valiant

Could it be possible that your parents see something that you do not in this particular person (regardless of race, biogotry etc..) in which they are attempting to protect you from possible errors of falling in love with the "wrong person"? It might be selfish to completely neglect your parent's say due to being in "love" in which it may blind you from thinking rationally.

Well, to to quote my ex, she said the reason her parents didn't like me was because they felt I "couldn't protect her". Now, I'm not a big guy, but I can fight when I need to. Her brother was big, played football. He ended up dying in a car wreck. The reason they felt I couldn't protect her was because I wasn't as big as her brother was. This is all according to her, again.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by Musharraf

Maybe it's some Saudi Arabian family; I heard fathers trade their daughters for Rolls Royce there.

Ha-ha! Nope. Caucasian, blond hair, blue eyes.

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Thought about this in the shower. Now, I'm not extremely close to my family, but I still love them. My dad has some anger issues, and my mom is 3 kinds crazy, but I love them both. However, if they stated flat-out that I would have to choose between them and the person I was in love with, I'd tell them to slag off. Not because I believe that love is more important, but because I think that if my parents truly love me, then they should respect whatever choices I make concerning who I might spend the rest of my life with. Let me make my own decisions, learn from whatever mistakes I may make. That's what irks me about this, is that they don't respect her choice, and put her in this position. Honestly, I feel that the person asking you to unconditionally choose between them and someone else is the one you don't go with. It's selfish and unfair. But that's just my opinion, mind you.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by ElectricSheep

This is very unfair to you, and you should cut it off. How can you really call someone friend when you are being forced into such a position?

Well, I'm not being forced into this position, per se. I choose to be in it, call me stupid if you will. To be honest, she's the closest person to me in the whole world still, someone I can just open up to speak my mind with, and vice versa. Just because she broke up with me doesn't mean she doesn't care about me or consider me a confidante. I count myself lucky we're still as close as we are (it's a lot better than my first girlfriend who left me for another girl. Snap.), but I feel that we could make a relationship work. Her parents are really the only reason why it won't. I don't know, maybe I'm asking too much.

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God, wow. After posting that last comment, I noticed this.



Now THAT'S irony.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

Originally Posted by Leknaat

And this is what happened with your girlfriend's parents:

They've already lost one child. They don't want to lose another. The size thing is just an excuse. They weren't able to protect her bigger, older brother together, so they feel that one small person won't be able to protect the most precious thing in their lives.

Mm, I came to more or less the same conclusion. However, according to my ex, her brother was very rebellious, partially due to peer influence, partially due to the stifling nature of the family relationship, particularly from their mother. When he crashed his car, he was under the influence. Now I'm no expert on human behaviour, but usually rebellion and drinking/getting high go hand in hand. I'm not saying that they killed him, indirectly or otherwise, but one would think that they would at least make some connection, and lay off a little. But, I'm not a parent, so maybe I just can't understand.

I was speaking idiomatically.