Sexual past.

my current girlfriend and i lost our verginity to eachother, and i thought that she hadnt done any.. other activites.

Im the type of person that thinks that sex is something special to be shared between people in love. and im bothered by the fact that she was pressured into doing things (oral mainly) with someone that she was dateing. that she was dateng because they reminded her of me...

I know it shouldnt bother me that my gf has done things before, but it does alittle. I guess the point of this post is to see what other people think about this kind of stuff.

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by Signify

As long as the person doesn't have any type of disease, or mental backlash, from their sexual pasts, I really don't care. They have their past, I have mine. No need to pry, or even get worried over things like that, really.

I agree. the only two resions i feel like this is:
1. she didnt really want to do it. she is just too insecure (or something) to say no. she is easy as hell to manipulate, because she is deathly afraid of making people unhappy.

2. she didnt really love him like she first thought she did, she was reminded of me by him, and we were to shy to say anything about our feelings to each other. and he asked her first.

There's nowhere I can't reach.

Originally Posted by Vampiro

If you're in a serious relationship, there's reason to pry.

yeah, if she wanted to keep it to her self i would be fine with it, but she doesnt want to keep things from me. and i think that in a serious long-term relationship its best not to keep things from eachother. we both agree that we are closer because of it.

Originally Posted by Vampiro

low self-esteem. It's a lot of work to build it back up, and even then it might still be low. Good luck with that.

lol. ive been working on it for 2 years. she used to think she was dumb, ugly, hated and worthless.(thanks to her wonderful family, mostly. and alittle because of said ex.) its getting better, slowly.

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Signify

I suppose it could be a case-by-case thing, but I probably wouldn't randomly ask my partner about their sex lives unless, as I said, they have a disease or are mentally scarred by it.

It's all about trust.

yes and no. i didnt randomly ask, she sorta brough it up. i think it takes alot of trust, and love, to tell someone about your past. i know that it has made us closer.

I am a dolphin, do you want me on your body?

gah

and she *must* remain friends with him. wtf >_<

I was speaking idiomatically.

Originally Posted by Dr. Uzuki

Wait, wha? A guy strongarmed your girlfriend into giving him head sometime ago because he reminded her of you? That cannot be a fact.

actaully, it is. she was only dateing im because he reminded her of me.

Originally Posted by a lurker

Are you bothered by the fact that she fooled around with people in the past, or that she had boyfriends and people she was very emotionally connected with?

not exactly. im bothered by the fact that what she did, she didnt really want to. and that has such a need to be friends with him. and other things i guess. im on the phone >_<

the name in the quotes should really match the user's display name...

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by Dr. Uzuki

I can decipher your meaning, I'm just letting you know you worded that very poorly.

its 4:34am and im sleepy as hell. lol. im going to bed.

FELIPE NO

eh. she says she "just wanted him to like me" what the hell.

and she wants to keep being friends because "[they] were friends before [they] dated" and she thinks she can just erase a few months from both of their minds and go on being friends. she is very naive and idealistic.

i just realized how immature im makeing my fiancée sound...

What, you don't want my bikini-clad body?

Originally Posted by ElectricSheep

It would upset me much more to learn that my significant other had been either emotionally or physically abused and my anger would not be directed at her.

Of your entire post, i will reply to this.
in a way, she was abused, and im sure as hell not mad at her for it.

Jam it back in, in the dark.

Its not, she isnt looking for pitty, she is actaully depressed. or was.

How ya doing, buddy?

Originally Posted by AliceNWondrland

Exactly what I was going to say, but you said it better.

janus, this type of thing is inborn in us. Women know how to manipulate you by telling you what you want to hear, and we're very good at it, no matter how little self-esteem we have or how depressed we are. It doesn't surprise me at all that you believe her. And also, that whole thing about her dating the guy because he reminded her of you? Come on. She's workin' it, and workin' it good.

(Ladies, we'll never convince him.)

Maybe, maybe not.
but i trust her. so far i dont really have a resion not to.
your right, you will never convince me because i love her and i trust her. maybe im being dumb, but i doubt it. we will see...

This thing is sticky, and I don't like it. I don't appreciate it.

Originally Posted by Sassafrass

You know, you deserve what you get walking into situations with your eyes so obviously closed. Maybe she'll accuse you of trying to pressure her into sex next!

ah.

maybe your right? but im willing to take the risk. because this wasnt the point of this thread at all. me trusting chelsea was never in question. and still isnt.

How ya doing, buddy?